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robert_basketball
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hello ,
my girlfriend and i have been having safe sex for quite a while now with no complications but this monday we were having safe sex with a condom.

i comed when the codom was still on but sex continued for approx 5 minutes.
after this we realised that the condom was not there anymore!
the codom was quite far into her vagina.
that was on monday, she was 7 days away from ovulation.

i was wondering what are the risks for us.
what are are her chances of becoming pregnant?


please help

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LilBlueSmurf
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Your girlfriends chances of pregnancy are quite high.

If she does not wish to become pregnant, she needs to get Emergency Contraception. EC is only effective up to 120hrs after the risk, so if this is something she'd interested in, she needs to move fast.

In the future, you need to stop having intercourse after you ejaculate or you risk this very thing happening again. The penis goes flaccid, the condom is no longer snug and the risks of failure increase ... Putting your partner at risk for pregnancy and you both at risk for STIs.

If you have both not been tested for STIs already, you need to do so now.

Check it out -- Emergency Contraception

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robert_basketball
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ok thank you
what makes the risk so high?

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if she has not started ovulating and the sperm wont survive in her vagina for more than 6 hours
why are the risks so high?

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The condom came off after you had ejaculated and remained inside her vagina- also, unless she has been charting her basal body temperature and cervical mucus, and has been doing so for at least a few months, there is no way she can know when exactly she will ovulate (and even then, irregularity can happen, so she may ovulate sooner than usual, or she may have ovulated the day of the risk, etc. you never know).

So, you have had high pregnancy and STI risks.

Also, your information is off- sperm can survive in the vagina for up to 5-7 days.

[ 08-24-2006, 02:55 PM: Message edited by: dailicious ]

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Because:

a) Unless she's charting her basal body temperature and monitoring her cervical mucus daily, there's no way of telling with any precision when she ovulates;

and:

b) sperm can survive in a "friendly" environment like the vagina for up to 5 days or so, hanging around in case an egg comes along.

So there is a serious risk here.

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ok so what is the best contacerptive method i should go for tomorrow?
taking in note this happened monday and tomorros is friday?

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we have many family planning centers and if the rsk are so high then durely she will be given what she needs without too much attention to age
she is 15

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Your girlfriend STILL has time to obtain Emergency Contraception if she does not wish to become pregnant, we would recomend she seeks that out asap.

As for contraception? Condoms are high effective if you use them correctly. That means getting a size that fits properly, using plenty of extra condom-safe lubricant, and withdrawling AFTER ejaculation by holding onto the base of the condom as you withdrawl to prevent it from slipping.

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so it is not to late for the ecp? is there anything else we should do?
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No, by getting EC TOMORROW, it will not be too late, so try and get in to do that. If you are getting the EC from one of the family planning centers, you should also BOTH schedule full STI screenings for about a month from now, and then also follow-up screenings about 6 months after.

A clinic can also help you with other options you can use as back-up to condoms, such as hormonal methods if she is interested in taking them. Hormonal methods are not automatically effective, however, so if she wants to start using one, you should rely on it being fully effective until after she has used it for one full cycle. In the meantime you should continue to use condoms until you have both received two full STI screenings.

(Also, you say she is 15? In Ireland, the age of consent for sexual activity is 17, this means that she cannot legally consent to sexual activity. If you are over the age of consent, you could end up in serious legal trouble if you continue your sexual relationship)

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but will this affect her getting the ecp?
i did not know that because i know a lot of people who are have gone through smialar situations , actually most of my friends.

thnak you for bringing that to my attention

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No, her age will not stop her from getting EC at all. The only trouble that really comes up in terms of age of consent is for the partner over the AOC, clinics would not prohibit anyone from getting the sexual health care they need because of their age.

(And I'm glad I could bring it to your attention- a lot of times AOC laws are simply unknown to people or just not followed, but the consequences can be vary real, such as jail time, fines, and being labled a sex offender for the rest of your life. It's usually best to hold off on sexual activity until both partners are over the age of consent, for both their well-being [Smile] )

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ok thank you so much for your help.

i will take her up tomorrow to get it.
will i be needed to be there with her because she would rather got o get it with her best friend?

also can she get ecp in case this ever arises again so that she can take them straight away?

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please answer i promise its the last question
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Please be patient. We are all volunteers here, answering questions on our free time.

You will not need to go w/ your girlfriend to get the EC.

I'm not sure if they will prescribe an extra set of EC incase this happens again. Your girlfriend can ask her doctor.

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