In the future, please don't post something like this in the emergency forum, as it isn't an emergency. Thanks.
Per your question, what do you do for yourself that feels good? When you know that, you can communicate it to your partner. For instance, it may be that when he performs manual sex with you, he's penetrating your vagina, when you actually prefer clitoral stimulation. Or it may be that you like a quicker pace while he's moving more slowly with his hands or tongue. When you know what you like, making some adpatationns can be as simple as a "Touch me there," or "Go a little faster?"
It's also worth making sure you want to be doing what you are with a partner overall. Sexual arousal is mainly in your brain, so if you're nervous or unsure you want to be sexually active, if you don't trust your partner or don't feel you can talk to them, if you're not practicing safer sex and thus have STI worries, or feel you aren't really participating, you're unlikely to enjoy yourself.
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