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NatskyLuvsMatsky
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Hi there,
My name is Natalie...
I am only 15 years old, and my boyfriend is 16... He and I have been together for quite some time ... We decided to have sex, the plus side is that it was protected... with TWO condoms... everyone I know is now telling me that was a bad idea we were both virgins... I was on day 12 of my menstrual cycle... and it is said that on day 14 is the one that is the easiest to get pregnant. I am scared... Planned Parenthood is closed this weekend... I want the ECP really badly.. I will NEVER have sex again till I am married. I am so scared would there be a big risk? even though the condoms didn't even slip, nor did they break... and it only lasted about 45 seconds... since I made him pull out to cum... please write back..my e-mail is [edited] no posts please thanks
Natalie

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LittleMoneeGirl
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OMG! i HAD SEX WITH 2 TOO!!! IM SO SCARED...I DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG WITH MY BODY.....

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-Jill
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First, let yourself relax -- since the condoms didn't break you don't need EC.

However, the friction of multiple condoms rubbing against each other makes them much more likely to break. You got lucky this time; next time just use the one. A Simple Condom Primer may be helpful.

As for never having sex again until marriage, you may want to give that a little more thought. Marriage is not a cure-all for the risks that come with sex. You can aquire STD/STIs while married, as well as conceive. Being married does not guarantee that you'll be ready for such things. Why not read through these articles and think about what's going to work best for you?
Ready or Not? –The Readiness Checklist
Does Abstinence make the Heart Grow Fonder?

Finally, if you do decide to try sex again in the near future (and it's just fine if you choose not to), these articles explain the basics of safer sex:
Safe, Sound & Sexy – A Safer Sex How-To
Margaret Sanger’s Disneyland - An easy chart of your birth control options.

Hope this helps.


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NatskyLuvsMatsky
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Thanks...
I am still just a little shook up... he only had it in me for about 30-45 seconds... he didn't cum in me, he pulled out... I don't know I am just a little confused now the only reason I am scared is that we did this at the TOTALLY wrong time of my menstrual cycle...I see that girls with normal spaced out periods (the cycle lasting 28 days) are most likely to ovulate around day 14... this was day 12... I am scared... I don't think I was ready, since i am worrying this much
Natalie

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logic_grrl
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quote:
.I see that girls with normal spaced out periods (the cycle lasting 28 days) are most likely to ovulate around day 14... this was day 12...

Whoa there!

Counting days is a really, really unreliable way of telling when you're ovulating.

Why so? Well, first of all, 28 days is just an average. Plenty of women have perfectly normal menstrual cycles which are longer or shorter than 28 days - what matters is what's normal for you.

And the timing of ovulation within the menstrual cycle can naturally vary a lot. It might be day 14 - it might also be day 10, or day 20, for example.

In any case, if the condom didn't break or slip and you used it for all genital contact, then your pregnancy risk is very low no matter what day it was.

Using 2 condoms is a bad idea because it makes it more likely that they will break from the friction. So is having the guy pull out before ejaculation, because it makes it more likely that the condom will slip in the rush to pull out.

But since you've said the condoms didn't slip or break in this case, you don't need to worry.


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NatskyLuvsMatsky
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Hey,
Thanks for taking your time to answer my posts
My boyfriend and I went to Planned Parenthood and got the ECP it's the "PLAN B" one... even though the sex was protected... he and i think there may have been a chance of his "pre-cum" entering my vagina.. it's alright that I got the ECP right?
Natalie

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Taking ECP won't harm you, even if it turns out to be unecessary. And it's certainly better to be safe than sorry .

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even though the sex was protected... he and i think there may have been a chance of his "pre-cum" entering my vagina.

If that happened, then you would have a pregnancy risk, yes (and also a potential STD/STI risk).

But it would also mean that the sex was not protected. "Protection" means using a condom for all genital contact, not just intercourse.

Please do have a read through these for future reference:

A Simple Condom Primer
Safe, Sound & Sexy – A Safer Sex How-To


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