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BeautifulMe24
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Hi, I asked advice about Virginity To do or not to Do on Scarlet Teen before this happened and I thought I would feel better about it but I dont. I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I comprised my Faith and my values for this and now I feel extremely bad about it. I don't know what to do. It's almost impossible to say no anymore and the other day my boyfriend and I had sex while his friends were downstairs in the house! It's like we can't stop and I feel terrible for letting him convince me to do this. I'm having feelings that i've never had before. I also have this discharge that is small & white but not odory (really embarassing) and I'm scared that I might have an STD!! this has never happened since I've become sexually active. He's had an STD before with a cheating EX girlfriend before. What Should I do? Please Help me! Thank you!
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logic_grrl
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I comprised my Faith and my values for this and now I feel extremely bad about it.

If you feel that this is wrong and opposed to your faith and values, then stop. Sex shouldn't be something that you feel guilty about.

You might want to re-read the answers you got before:

http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum2/HTML/003508.html

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It's almost impossible to say no anymore

Which is also a good reason to stop and have a think about your boundaries. In order to be ready to have sex, you need to be able to say "no" when you want to - and also able to take responsibility for when you choose to say "yes".

If it feels like you can't say no or you can't stop or that things are out of control, then it's time to step back and take a break.

As Miz Scarlet recommended in response to your previous question, please read through Ready or Not? The Readiness Checklist and Safer Sex... For Your Heart.

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I also have this discharge that is small & white but not odory (really embarassing)

That doesn't sound abnormal in itself unless it has "curds" or "chunks" in it (check out Honorably discharged A Guide to your Vaginal secretions).

But if you are having sex without using a condom, then yes, you are at risk for STDs/STIs and need to get screened.

[This message has been edited by logic_grrl (edited 06-05-2003).]


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