Last week, I touched my boyfriend as he came and then, without thinking, touched myself. I came home and scrubbed myself, everywhere with everything I could find. If I washed my hands (like for hours) could there possibly be live sperm on them? And today I got my period - I think - but if it's really my period, then it's early by almost two weeks. On the other hand, I've been dieting alot and lost my period, and I just started eating again yesterday. Is it possible that he somehow hurt me down there, and I'm bleeding, and if so, would it hurt (I saw him last night)? Finally, I'm not on the Pill, but I want to be. Where do you get it? Could I get it without my parents knowing (I can't drive)?
I would suggest that your not eating is likely the cause of the irregularities rather than the sexual incident. I don't know what you did last night, so I can't say if you could be bleeding from an abrasion or such. "Seeing" someone doesn't really give us much information to work with, luv.
However, you did have a pregnancy and an STD and STI risk, so you will have to deal with that (testing for the latter soon, both of you, and if your period remains funky, a pregnancy test).
As far as the pill goes (and again, please understand that only deals with birth control -- STI transmission is MUCH more common than pregnancy, so safer sex mmeasures and tools are also something you need), you can see your own gynecologist or go to a clinic like Planned Parenthood for an exam and to obtain the pill/a presctiption for the pill, should it be a good method for you.
Thanks, I know my eating problem is wrong, but I heard that if I'm pregnant, then starving myself kills the baby, and things are taken care of... *cringes* Don't attack me on that one, I come from a very up-tight family, and becasue (accoridng to them) there would never be any reason for me to need, say, birth control, or an STD check, and therfore I've never been to the gyno, or anything like that. And as far as becoming pregnant, to them that just isn't an option. But I feel that I should live by my own morals... So if I sperm on my hands, but washed my hands, are they clean? If not, what can I do?
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I won't "attack" you, but the idea that starving yourself would cause a miscarriage is just plain wrong. For that to happen, you'd have to be dangerously close to death yourself.
You can buy condoms and lubricants at any grocery or drugstore. Hormonal contraceptives (like birth control pills or emergency contraceptives) are not available without a doctor's prescription.
As for the gynecologist question, we feel that everyone should start getting yearly checkups (pelvic exam, Pap smear, and the like) when they begin menstruating. It's just part of taking care of yourself, and has nothing to do with whether or not you're sexually active. If you present it to your parents this way, they may be more willing to take you to the doctor.
And finally, if there is no way that you can deal with an unintended pregnancy, perhaps it's time for you to reconsider your readiness for sexual activity. Check this out: Ready or Not? –The Readiness Checklist.
quote:I heard that if I'm pregnant, then starving myself kills the baby, and things are taken care of...
Nope. It might malnourish the fetus, possibly causing disabilities, but it's not necessarily going to cause a miscarriage. And like other methods of DIY abortions you may have heard of, it could only damage the fetus by damaging you as well. Not a good move.
quote:I come from a very up-tight family, and becasue (accoridng to them) there would never be any reason for me to need, say, birth control, or an STD check, and therfore I've never been to the gyno, or anything like that.
You might want to explain to them that any girl or woman should have regular gyn check-ups once they've started menstruating, whether they're sexually active or not.
quote:So if I sperm on my hands, but washed my hands, are they clean?
Yes, washing your hands with soap and water will effectively remove sperm.
If you're looking for a method of birth control that you can get at any drugstore, how about condoms? And they provide STD protection, too ...
However, like all methods of contraception, they are not 100% effective.
And part of being ready to be sexually active is having access to the resources to handle it if things go wrong - for example, being able to get emergency contraception if you need it, or get access to a safe legal medical abortion if you make that choice.
Sperm can last about twenty minutes in an unfriendly enviroment (like on your hands). If you get ejaculate on your hands, or any other bodily fluid, it's best to wash your hands with soap and water.
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