Donate Now
We've Moved! Check out our new boards.
  
my profile | directory login | search | faq | forum home

  next oldest topic   next newest topic
» Scarleteen Boards: 2000 - 2014 (Archive) » EXPERT ADVICE » Emergencies and Crises » Scared..

 - UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!    
Author Topic: Scared..
Surf Chicklet
Activist
Member # 11403

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Surf Chicklet     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
Hi,
Sorry if my posts are getting bothersome, I'm still not sure where to go about this. Anyway..I was at a dance and this guy (I didnt know who it was..he came up from the back) tried to start dancing with me. I swear he tried to put his hand down my pants in the process..I moved away as soon as I could. He only ended up touching like where my underwear hit..I'm still scared. Any chance of pregnancy? What should I do to stop this from happening?
Thanks (again..)

Posts: 59 | Registered: Jan 2003  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Heather
Executive Director & Founder
Member # 3

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Heather     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
No, there is not a pregnancy risk.

To keep that from happening, or handle that, you just need to stand up for yourself and say clearly what you are and are not interested in, e.g., "I agreed to a dance, not a lap dance, thanks."

------------------
Heather Corinna
Editor and Founder, Scarleteen

My epitaph should read: "She worked herself into this ground."
-- Kay Bailey Hutchinson


Posts: 68290 | From: An island near Seattle | Registered: May 2000  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Bobolink
Activist
Member # 1386

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Bobolink         Edit/Delete Post 
It should also be pointed out that the acts of this person constitute assault. You may wish to press charges.

------------------
We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.

- Albert Einstein


Posts: 3442 | From: Stirling, Ontario, Canada | Registered: Sep 2000  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
alaska
Scarleteen Volunteer
Member # 1896

Icon 1 posted      Profile for alaska     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
quote:
Originally posted by Surf Chicklet:
I'm still not sure where to go about this.

Surf, hon, please talk to your counsellor/therapist about this, too. Please do.

It's great you started talking about the possibility of you having OCD or anxiety issues with a counsellor. - please start talking about your fear of pregnancy when you haven't had a risk, too.

I can not imagine how this worry must be affecting you when you're concerend about pregnancy every time a male touches you. - I know it can be hard to talk about worries like this, but please tell your counsellor. - I am sure (s)he will assisst you in finding ways to deal with it.

Of course we'll keep listening and helping you as much as possible, but right now, I get the impression that a real life person's help is needed specifically in regards to your pregnancy worries, too, so that you can get them sorted out and find strategies to deal with them.

Also, regarding this bloke touching you: if this was a school dance, you might consider alerting school admin about this, too.

------------------
Caro
~Scarleteen Sexpert~

Spike: Well, I'm not good and I'm okay.

[This message has been edited by Alaska (edited 03-29-2003).]


Posts: 4526 | From: germany | Registered: Nov 2000  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
   

   Close Topic   Feature Topic   Move Topic   Delete Topic next oldest topic   next newest topic
 - Printer-friendly view of this topic
Hop To:


Contact Us | Get the Whole Story! Go Home to SCARLETEEN: Sex Ed for the Real World | Privacy Statement

Copyright 1998, 2014 Heather Corinna/Scarleteen
Scarleteen.com: Providing comprehensive sex education online to teens and young adults worldwide since 1998

Information on this site is provided for educational purposes. It is not meant to and cannot substitute for advice or care provided by an in-person medical professional. The information contained herein is not meant to be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease, or for prescribing any medication. You should always consult your own healthcare provider if you have a health problem or medical condition.

Powered by UBB.classic™ 6.7.3