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animegirl
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Hello, its me again.... and once again, I am fighting with my worst enemy..... pre-cum. My boyfriend and I were fooling around. I was masturbating him, and I stopped for a few seconds to move something out of our way. When I turned back around, he was masturbating himself. It couldnt have been for more than 5 seconds. Once I realized it, I told him to stop. Right then, I touched his penis to feel if it was wet, and it felt completely dry. After about 10-15 minutes (and after touching several other things such as his shirt, his steering wheel, seat belt, seat, etc), he pleasured me by rubbing my vulva. I am not even sure if he used the same hand that he was touching himself with to touch me. I didnt think anything of it at first, but then, after contemplating what could happen, I am very frightened.

The following is a quote I got from www.teenwire.com , Planned Parenthood's site for teenagers:

"It is possible to get pregnant if fingers wet with semen make their way into a vagina. The odds are against it, but it has happened. But sperm can only survive in warm, moist areas, and even if your hands have had semen on them, the sperm will die after the semen dries. So it's not like you have to keep HandiWipes« or alcohol swabs around Ś just make sure those hands have dried off. "

The following is another quote; this one was recieved from "Ask Alice!", Columbia University's Health and Research website to educate people about general and sexual health:

"Sperm could be in pre-cum, but only after a recent ejaculation, after which some sperm may be left hanging around in the urethra. "Recent" means masturbating earlier and then having sex with a woman, or during the same sexual episode of the recent ejaculation. Urinating in between ejaculations flushes the urethra of stray sperm and makes the way clear for the sperm-less pre-ejaculate fluid. If sperm remains after a prior ejaculation, then it's possible that they can enter the vagina and make their way to meet an egg."

My boyfriend has not ejaculated for 2 days prior to our encounter, and has certainly urinated several times since his last ejaculation. The reason I put these two quotes down, is because I feel that the diverse information I have been recieving from different sources (while they are all credible) is very confusing. Please help me determine my risks, and help shed some light on my confusion. Thank you for your time, help, and support.

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Dzuunmod
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As always in these situations, all we can do is direct you to our flow chart - http://www.scarleteen.com/reproduction/preg_risk.html - dealing with the subject.

According to it, you have a low to moderate risk of pregnancy. Though, from what you've said, it sounds like your risk is more likely low, than moderate.

To avoid these risks in the future, start using latex gloves for manual sex, and make sure to change gloves before touching different genitals.

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LilBlueSmurf
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We are giving you the best information we can. Many of us have background education, and from what i can tell, we would all agree that there HAS been shown to be a certain amount of sperm in pre ejaculate. How much it is doesn't matter, as it only takes ONE sperm to fertilize an egg.

If you have doubts, i'd direct you to your doctor. S/he'll likely be able to give you sound advice you can trust (assuming you have a doctor you trust ...)


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animegirl
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If my train of thought remains the same as it is now, I am going to quit having sexual activity for a while, until I feel like I can handle the consequences that can arise from this. I am completely terrified as of right now.... my boyfriend always tells me that there is nothing to worry about.... but that just makes me feel worse. His sense of stubborness is another reason I feel that abstinence is the way to go for a while. I am lost on how to confront my boyfriend about this......

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Smart girl. A big part of sexual readiness is being ready to deal with what might happen and both you and your partner being able to take the necessary precuations rather than just saying "don't worry about it" all the time. If you're really this concerned about it, which it certainly sounds like you are, then that may be a good indication to you that you're just not ready.

I'd suggest simply telling your boyfriend that you've realized that you're not ready to deal with the consequences or the worries that come with sexual activity right now. There's plenty of time for sex, honestly.

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Heather
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Just to clear yp the sperm-in-pre-ejaculate questions for you as best I can.

Sperm CAN be in pre-ejaculate. It also may not be, and the two quotes you have posted are accurate.

The problem with guessing is that for starters, not every man is going to be honest with his partner about when he last ejaculated, especially if it was via masturbation and he feels funny about saying when he last masturbated. As well, it's not something we're able to see or guage in any verifiable way (save the hard way, when it's too late).

I'd say your risk here is low. I'd also say that it sounds like you're making the best choice for you right now, and I agree, your boyfriend feeling there is nno need for worry shows that perhaps he's not able to really understand the risks sex entails, and that's a pretty important part of sexual readiness.

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animegirl
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Thank you all for your help in clearing things up for me, especially Miss Scarlet. Thanks a bunch!!!

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