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Cutechick235
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I've just been to my doctor and I have been diagnosed with enital warts, I have to make an appointment now up the hospital, I havent stopped crying and I just feel so bad and ashamed.
I started going out with this boy the other day and I know he will want sex soon and I know that I wont b able to. Will I ever be able to have sex again without worrying that im goin to give it to someone else or can I never have sex again?

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KittenGoddess
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Woah there sweetie. Slow down, take a deep breath, relax a bit.

STI File: Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Warts)
Herpes & HPV

Check out those two articles for some information about HPV. It's good that you've gotten yourself diagnosed and that you're getting treatment. Good for you. Having HPV doesn't mean that you'll never be able to have sex again. It does mean that you'll need to abstain if you're having a break out. And that you'll need to inform your partners before you become sexually active with them. You'll also need to keep a really close eye on your sexual health, pay attention to your body. And make sure that you're using all safer sex precautions. It's not the end of the world though. There are a couple of threads around here (in Support Groups, I think) that are about being diagnosed with STDs. That may provide you with some much needed emotional support right now.

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I started going out with this boy the other day and I know he will want sex soon and I know that I wont b able to.

That statement bothers me a bit, honey. Do you want to have sex with him right now? I don't just mean in reference to the HPV. Just because he "will want sex soon" certainly doesn't mean that you have to have sex. Wanting to be sexually active is one thing, but feeling like you should be just because someone else wants it is an entirely different issue. Don't ever do anything that you're not sure you want to do. No matter what the reasoning behind it.

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KittenGoddess
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KittenGoddess
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http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum9/HTML/000008.html

There ya go...check out that thread.


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Heather
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Would you feel ashamed iof you were diagnosed with chicken pox?

Not likely. Look love, bodies are falliable and susceptible to viruses and disease: your whole body, and that includes your genitals. Just because your virus is sexually transmittied doesn't make it any dirtier or "bad" than any other sort of illness.

Now, if you havem't been practicing safer sex, took a risk and now found out how much of a risk, then yes, you're going to feel a little foolish and likely angry with yourself. But the only sound, healthy way to manage that is by making a vow to yourself to now learn about safer sex and practice it, always, henceforth. Mind you, with HPV and Herpes, sometimes even that isn't always enough.

Can you have sex again? Yes, you can. At least one-third of all sexually active young adults right now have HPV. It's not just you, but that is a wake-up call to take safer sex seriously: and that includes not just condom, dam and glove use, but testing as well. You should also make a point right now of contacting your previous partners to inform them of this so they too can be tested.

The risk of giving it to others is high, but it is decreased dramatically via women when you keep check of your sexual health, get any active warts taken care of promptly, and use safer sex practices: again, namely condoms, gloves and dental dams and testing. You can find out about all of that right here: Safe, Sound & Sexy A Safer Sex How-To.

You can also find out more about HPV here: Herpes & HPV and here: STI File: Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Warts).

So, you have a new person you're dating. The way to start this right is to make sure that before you start progressing to sexual activities, you are comfortable enough with him to tell him you have HPV, tell him what his risks are, and talk about safer sex with him. if you can't do that -- for people with or without an STD or STI -- you shouldn't be sexually active. Those discussions and practices are necessary for everyone right now to have sex reponsibly whether they have an STI or not.

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