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maniacz
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i did a very stupid thing to day, having intercousre without protection, which is the fifth day after her mens, i think i eject alittle bit in her, i told her to get ecp, but she dun want, so wat is the risk of her getting pregnant, and does going through abortion lower the risk of pregnancy???
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Heather
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Abortion is the surgical termination of a pregnancy. It does not lower the risk, because a woman has to be ppregnant to have an abortion.

In case you're asking if having aborted before lowers your risk of conceiving afterwards, the answer is no, it does not.

ECP is NOT abortion, for the record.

Withdrawal is also not birth control. Pre-ejaculate and ejaculate create pregnancies.

If she doesn't want to get ECP, that is her choice. If she is not prepared to handle a pregnancy, or does not want one, I'd certainly suggest she does, but at this point, because of the choice you made and she apparently agreed to (not using a condom and/or birth control), she gets to decide what she wants to do, period.

Which means that you may possibly become a daddy. Again, that's the way this goes when that's the choice you make, honey.

I'd suggest you both talk about this together further, as may be obvious.

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maniacz
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7 days after mens is safe period rite?
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-Jill
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There is no time it is safe to have unprotected sex. Unless your partner has regular periods and has been charting her cervical mucus and basal body temperature there is no way to know when she ovulates.

I'm sorry I can't tell you anything different. Please reread Miz Scarlet's post and talk to your partner. The two of you need to discuss how you plan to handle your current situation (at risk for both pregnancy and STD/STIs) and where to go from here. If it turns out she is not pregnant you'll want to discuss condoms and back-up methods of birth control such as the patch or Depo.

Good luck; please keep us informed.


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Heather
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(And FYI, in women with regular cycles, 7 days after menstruation is very much NOT safe, as it is a time some women will be becoming MOST fertile -- remember that sperm can live in the vagina for as long as five to seven days)

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maniacz
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i manage to persuade her to get ecp, but where can i get it in singapore...pharmacy?
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Heather
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You can't get it for her, she has to get the prescription herself.

I don't know how the health care system works there, so I suggest you or she call a local hospital and ask how to obtain it.

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