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I know this doesn't have anything to do with pregnancy or anything but I feel as if I have nowhere else to go but here. I have been becoming suicidal lately.. my boyfriend broke up with me 9 months ago, and since then he has been calling my house and leaving harassing and threatening messages. We had sex many times, and I feel that that is why he is acting like this b/c of that emotional attachment you get after you have sex with someone. I think that is why he is like this, IDK, but I feel as if he still thinks he has control over me. Since the break up it has gotten a lot worse, and I have tried to attempt suicide before b/c of this. I have been hospitalized, I have called crisis hotlines and gone to therapy but nothing seems to help. I have also put a restraining order on my ex for harassment and have blocked all possible #'s he could call from but he seems to find a way to contact me so he can do these things. I am really scared that he might try something on me and I don't know what else to do. If there is anyone out there who can give me some words of wisdom I would greatly appreciate it.

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If he is breaking a restraining order, your best option would be to report it to the police. Let your ex try to explain why he should not be locked up to the judge who issued the order.

Don't let him take control of the situation.

We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.

- Albert Einstein

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Bobolink's got it exactly right. Never let someone with problems make you believe those are your problems. That's a common abuser's trick, and one of the reasons dangerous relationships can be so hard to get out of. Sex is only sex; you can't *make* someone love you or become attached to you that way, so cut yourself some slack there, and do keep the nasty messages for when you contact the police. In the US, anyway, your ex could be looking at felony or misdemeanor (depending on circumstances) charges; I'd say it's well and truly time to let him do so.

Milke, with an L, SSBD, RATS, TMNTP

Anyone perfect must be lying, anything easy has its cost
Anyone plain can be lovely, anyone loved can be lost

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