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My boyfriend and me have discussed the topic of having sexual intercourse, but i've never dont it before and am not too secure. I really want to but i am not sure when i am able to because at the moment i have my period. When would be the safest for my boyfriend and me to do it without risking me of becoming pregnant or anything else??
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The "safest time" is when you are using contraception and practising safer sex.

Really, there aren't any magical "safe periods"; it's possible to get pregnant and contract or transmit an STD at any point in your cycle.

Check out these articles to help you decide if you are ready to have intercourse or not, and to make sure you have the information you need to keep yourself safe if you do decide you are ready:

Ready or Not? –The Readiness Checklist
First Intercourse 101
Safe, Sound & Sexy – A Safer Sex How-To
Margaret Sanger’s Disneyland - An easy chart of your birth control options

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As well born, if this is the man you were talking about in your last posts, you might want to slow down.

I was under the impression the two of you weren't even dating yet and hadn't had much more than very casual friendly contact.

When someone like that starts talking about intercourse from the get-go, it should set off some warning bells: namely, that thay may just be looking to get into your pants.

Not all men far older than much younger girls are just out for sex, however, it isn't uncommon for older men to look to young girls sometimes when they're just curious, looking to score, or when they know an older girl or woman would know better.

If I've misunderstood the situation, I apologize, but if not, stop and think. It just sounds so far like this relationship had not at all progressed to any point where it'd be normal to start talking about sex together.

Heather Corinna
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