My friend does not get through a day w/ out slitting his wrists. He talks to people on hotlines and everything to help. The bad part is that he is my ex-boyfriend and I am still in love w/ him. It's so hard on me to see him do this to himself, I pretty much talk him out of it each time on the phone, but now each time it's getting harder and harder to get through to him. As you might be able to tell we are still close friends. He takes anti-depresent pills, because he is manic depressant, but it is not seeming to help any. His mom knows about suicide threats he has had earlier (she does not know about him slitting his wrists) and has not gotten him help. Just please post something helpful, I am clueless on what to do. Thank You.
Posts: 2 | From: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, USA | Registered: Dec 2002
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This is not something that you should have to be dealing with on your own, and I think you know that. This is an area for a professional, and you've talked to his mother, and she's not getting him help. Is there someone you can talk to at school about this? A counselor or a teacher? Because you should not be responsible for this - that's simply not fair to you.
If you feel that he is a danger to himself, and you've talked to his mother and to other adults you can trust, you can ALWAYS call the police. If someone is in danger of harming himself or others, this is the smart thing to do, and it's the scenario I would say you're heading towards.
You don't need to have all this stress on your shoulders - and I remember what feeling this feels like, I have been in a situation very close to yours - and he needs to get some help. Again, talk to a counselor or an adult you can trust - try your parents, too, if you need to - or call the police. This is something that needs to be dealt with as soon as possible.
It isn't always easy to decipher when someone is earnest about suicide and when they're trying to get help, but attemtpts at slitting your wrists can end in death regardless, so it is best to treat it as a medical emergency. And the folks there can do the job you can't -- they can determine what help he may need and get it for him.
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