okay, here goes... my boyfriend and i were messing around and i was giving him fellatio/manual. He paused and told me to finger myself, and i did after wiping my hands off on my shorts. I then continued giving fellatio until he came. Afterwards I started panicing, because i realized we hadn't been safe...i'm also freaking out because i stopped my period the 23 and today is the 27, which i understand is my most fertile time. I've read the flow charts, but its really not helping to calm me. i know i could also say, well, he didn't come until after i fingered myself, but i realize there could be pre-ejaculate...i'm only 16, and i've got a very conservative family when it comes to sex and such, and if i were to get pregnant i would, literally, be disowned. also, i would pretty much be ruining my future if i conceived right now...i have very high marks in school and am planning to be a doctor...but i'm so scared right now i feel sick. If anyone could please just say something comforting, or give advice, i would appreciate it soooo much! also, i would have a lot of trouble getting to a planned parenthood because i think it closes before i get out of volleyball practice and if i miss practice you have to run A LOT....
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Well sweetie, we're not necessarily in the business of providing comfort...if by that you mean you want us to say that there's no way you should be worried.
Here's about all I can offer you...you and your boyfriend have a pretty significant STD risk. If ejaculate or pre-ejaculate came into contact with your vulva, then you have a pregnancy risk too. My advice would be to take yourself and your boyfriend down to Planned Parenthood and get yourselves STD testing ASAP. When you call them to make the appointment, you can describe to them the incident and see if they feel you need emergency contraception (if it's been within the last 72 hours, that is).
Being safe doesn't just mean making sure you keep ejaculate away from your vulva so you don't get pregnant. STDs are a big deal. That's why you and your partner should be using condoms, dental dams, and latex gloves whenever you're sexually active. I can understand not wanting to miss practice to go down to Planned Parenthood (most locations are open on Saturdays too, btw), but think about how many practices you might have to miss if you get pregnant, or have to get treatment for an STD.
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