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LanaBanana
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My boyfriend and I are not ready for sex, because of the risk of pregnancy. So we practice a lot of manual sex. But this time it was different.

I just ended my period on Tuesday. On Thursday and Friday, my boyfriend fingered me. Yesterday and today, I've noticed some brown discharge on my underwear and when I wipe.

Could this brown discharge be because he was a bit rough with me and might of caused some trauma? Or is it because I just ended my period on Tuesday?

It is now Saturday, and I'm still experiencing this brown discharge on my underwear, but especially when I wipe.

I always experience the discharge a day or two after my period ends, but I just want to see if because he fingered me 2 days after it ended, if this is a normal way of my vagina cleaning itself out after this activity.

I have a doctors appointment next week for a physical, I'd just like to know if I should mention this brown discharge or not.

Thank you [Smile]

[ 08-02-2014, 07:14 PM: Message edited by: LanaBanana ]

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Karybu
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It could be that your period is just taking a while to fully stop, or you may have a bit of a cut or scrape from the manual sex; unfortunately there's no way for us to know. I'd say give yourself a couple of days without any kind of sex, just in case it is a bit of an injury, and if it hasn't stopped by your appointment next week, mention it to your doctor. (Even if it has stopped you can ask about it, answering questions like that is part of your doctor's job, after all!)

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LanaBanana
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Thank you Karybu [Smile]

Last night I was with my boyfriend and I mentioned it to him. He said he might of been too rough or maybe my hymen finally broke?
He said that their was a moment when he felt it was tighter than usual..
But yesterday when I went to the restroom I noticed that there's now pink discharge with the brown.
And now it also burns when I wipe and pee.

I assume since it burns and it's irritated, especially when I wipe, that he was somewhat rough and might of scraped me inside.

I will take advantage of my appointment on Tuesday and let my doctor know

Is there anything I can use or do to help with the burning?

We both agreed to lay off any activities until I feel healed

I'm just worried that it might be some sort of infection

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The hymen actually very rarely breaks, save from things like serious genital injury or sexual assault. Rather, it tends to wear away gradually over a lifetime.

What this likely is about is an abrasion. With manual sex, if people aren't using PLENTY of lubricant, and either wearing latex gloves or have very carefully manicured their hands first, abrasions can happen easily. If someone was also aggressive -- especially if there ALSO was not lube or gloves -- then abrasion is pretty much to be expected.

There's really nothing to do in the meantime save not doing any internal sexual activity for a bit, and being sure you don't use tampons for any bleeding (they dry out the vagina, so when you have a scrape of some kind, can seriously irritate things).

[ 08-03-2014, 12:17 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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LanaBanana
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Thank you heather [Smile]

It doesn't burn as much as it did yesterday, but the discomfort is still there.
And when I go to the bathroom there's still the brown discharge and little tiny spots of pink blood.

Is this common after manual sex?

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Karybu
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It isn't unusual if people are not using plenty of lube and either wearing gloves or have trimmed fingernails, as Heather said.

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