I had sex for the first time not too long ago. My bf went kinda fast, but it was ok. Sometimes he went to deep, but then he stopped. Afterwards, my vagina was hurting. Is this normal?
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Sorry to hear you had some painful sex there. Sex shouldn't be painful, when it is it can be for a number of reasons. Arousal makes a big difference and when it comes to making sex pleasurable that often means having more relaxed muscles, and being
From what you say, it seems like he was making a lot of the decisions of how you would have sex. Even just noticing the language you used he went fast, he went to deep, he stopped.
A lot of making sex work better for us is about shifting a way from 'he' and making it more about 'you' and more about 'we'.
Really starting what feels explicitly good for you, and what feels good for both of you is probably the number one way to improve things, and that comes from communication, knowing what each of you are feeling and reacting.
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