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soearty
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I'm 16 y/o and i lost my virginity last wednesday. My partner used a condom and i'm positive there wasn't no holes or anything, and he wasn't really able to get his penis in me maybe a quarter of it. I'm really paranoid that i could be pregnant though. My period came 4 days early which sometimes happens to me cause my period is irregular sometimes it's early and sometimes it's late. I'm afraid my next period would be late. I have really bad anxiety I had anixety before the sex by the way, this pregnancy scare is my anxiety even worse. I can't get the thought of me being pregnant out of my head. I can't sleep at night because that's all that goes through my head at night. I need reassurance. I realize that I'm too young for sex and i should wait when i'm actually ready for it.
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Sam W
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Hi soearty,

Just to clarify, did your period come after you had sex or before?

So you know, this kind of sex will always pose some risk, even if you use protection. However, as long as the condom did not break or come off, you can assume it's job (plus, you combined a condom with withdrawl, which decreases the chances of pregnancy further). It sounds like you know you're not ready for sex at this level. Would you like some info on how to scale back and figure out what (if anything) you're ready for?

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It came after i had sex.
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Okay, then if you've had your period, you can assume you're not pregnant. Of course, if you're still concerned about whether or not you are, you can always wait and take a pregnancy test. Having that concrete result might help ease your anxiety.
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soearty
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And yes i would love to get some info!
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Sam W
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Alrighty then! So, two pieces to start out with are:
Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist
Whoa, There! How to Slow Down When You're Moving Too Fast

I'm also going to give you this article, to help you with some of the anxiety you might be feeling:
Self-Care a La Carte

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Thank you so much:)
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You're welcome [Smile]
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