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Worriedteen123
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Hi,

I know you don't do pregnancy symptoms which is fine but I would like some clarification on direct genital touching. For most of it, my boyfriend and I were rolling around and messing around WITH underwear (but I know that's fine). I think there was a time when we were both naked so I need to know about direct touching- I know for sure his head of his penis didn't touch me. Plus he didn't ejaculate anywhere near me....
I wouldn't be worried because it seems harmless (I hope!) except 2 days after that I had a longer than normal period which was old blood... And now, 4 weeks after the incident, I have tingly nipples!!! My period is due Thursday (assuming the old blood was a period and not something else) so could my nipples just be doing this because I'm about to have a period?
This whole thing is making me feel so sick and I would greatly appreciate any help!
Thank you

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Heather
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I hear you saying there was NOT any direct genital to genital contact. And then hear you saying you know that means there has not been a pregnancy risk.

Having nipples that feel a certain way does not change that.

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Worriedteen123
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So, you're saying the risk of pregnancy is nil? I guess maybe my nipples are like this because I'm about to start my period... Except they've never felt like that before!
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Sam W
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That's exactly what we're saying, and what you've actually said too (since you said there was no direct genital contact). And period symptoms can change from time to time, so that's likely why you're having nipple sensitivity.
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Worriedteen123
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Thank you ever so much for your time- it has been greatly appreciated [Smile]
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Worriedteen123
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Hi,

I know you said there's a zero chance of me being pregnant but since we last spoke, my nipples are still really sensitive, I've missed my period which should have been on the 17th and I have these really weird light cramps that have lasted quite a few days... I'm having these and trying to reason with myself that I can't be because I've never had sex nor has ejaculate been me...
Your help would be appreciated

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September
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Please take a look here: http://www.scarleteen.com/this_is_your_pregnancy_scare_answer

[ 05-19-2014, 01:26 PM: Message edited by: September ]

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Worriedteen123
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Thank you for that and your speedy response- I have read most of those before asking you again. I guess I'm only worried because I've never experienced these symptoms before...
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Sam W
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If you are having symptoms like cramping that aren't related to your period, then it is sound to check in with a doctor about them.

It's not unusual for periods to vary in their arrival time. You can read more about that here:
M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period?

It sounds like you're feeling a lot of anxiety around pregnancy worries. Do you have any sense of what might be causing that anxiousness? Are you comfortable with the level of sexual activity you're engaging in? I would say that you might want to give the "You're Not Pregnant Why Do You Think You Are" piece from the link Johanna gave you a read and see if anything in there rings a bell for you.

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Worriedteen123
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Thank you for your help! I do suffer from anxiety and I don't really have anyone to talk to about this sort of stuff, it's just being bottled up, so I really appreciate your time [Smile]
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Sam W
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You're welcome [Smile]

You mention you don't have anyone to talk to about your anxiety. Are you, or have you looked into, seeing a counselor or other mental health professional at all?

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I would really like to because it's affecting my studies at the moment... I would t really know where to start though! But I could look into it [Smile]
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Molias
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Some schools do have counseling services, so that would be a place to start. If you have a doctor you see regularly, you could get in touch with them and ask for a referral as well.
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Worriedteen123
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Thank you for your help [Smile]
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