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Alzoblossomxx
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this is probably something totally silly, but im curious to know what it is and i thought the best place and people to ask are the experts here!

so yeah, me and my boyfriend don't want to have full on penetrative sex yet (pregnancy concerns etc etc) so we do all that other good stuff, and every time he fingers me he says about an inch or two in, he feels something stopping him from going further. he described it as "spongy" and that sometimes its lower down so he can get even less finger in haha..

to experiment, i told him to gently press further and it stung a little.. what could this be? and will it have any effect when we do have sex?

thanks a bunch! [Smile]

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Check out our content on sexual anatomy in the bodies section of the main site, which you can click right over to right up top, paying special attention to discussion of the urethral sponge or G -spot.

That area is usually an inch to three inches in, and will tend to feel exactly like that on the fingers.

And if he is pressing against that, yeah, he is not going to be going any further because that is on the back of the vaginal wall: like any wall, you cannot press through it. The vaginal canal curves kind of back and up, rather than straight back, so if he and you want him to be inside deeper, he will just need to get to know the topography of your vagina a bit better and take that angle up into account.

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Alzoblossomxx
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yeah, we spoke about thinking it was the way i was lying etc! great, as long as there's nothing wrong with me haha, thank you very much!

oh and one last thing, is it normal that it stings when he presses it?

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Not any kind of touch, anywhere, feels good. So, if the way he is touching you there stings, then what you know is...well, the way he is touching you stings, and that is not the way to do that.

Additionally, with fingers in the vagina, additional lubricant is typically a must. That tissue is all tender and can feel raw easily, so touching anywhere inside the vagina can sting when someone is not using adequate lubricant.

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thanks for your help, that's great! [Smile]
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hey, back again with a follow up question. he's now saying it's something hard stopping him, i'm thinking it's my pubic bone? could that be right?
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It could be, yep. And if that is the case, then we are talking about an issue of nothing but angles here.

It might be helpful for you both to go into our bodies section and take a look at the pieces about your anatomy.

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