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shlee
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So the other day my boyfriend and I were messing around. No sex, because both of us aren't ready for that and we don't want to risk pregnancy, as I'm not on the pill yet, and I don't trust condoms. I gave him a handjob, but I let him finish. He couldn't though, because his parents were a few room down and it just stopped him from fulling finishing. So he just wiped himself off with a tissue and wiped the precum off his hands with a tissue. And then about 15 minutes later he started touching me. He didn't actually insert a finger inside me, just rubbed me down there. I didn't think to make him wash his hands before he did that. The next day, I felt very nauseous and two days later, I finally threw up. I've still been feeling bad, and my stomach feels tight. Am I just freaking out, or is there a possibility I could be pregnant? I'm scared out of my mind. My period is still 2 weeks away so there's no way for me to really know for sure. Any help would be appreciated.
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Hi Shlee,

Can you please take a look at this article and tell me what it says the risks of the behavior you described are?
http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/10/t/002611.html#000000

Also, just so you know, even if someone does do something that results in pregnancy, they would not start seeing symptoms after a few days.

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shlee
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According to the article, I really have no risk since his hands were dry. And I wasn't sure about the pregnancy symptoms because I read somewhere that they can start as early as the next day after the unprotected sex (even though we didn't have sex). So thank you so much for showing that article and telling me that, because A LOT of pressure has been taken off of my chest. I think the nausea and tightness in my stomach were due to my anxiety, because they're now gone. Now I'll just try to not stress out about it because I know stress can delay periods. Thank you so much!!
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You're quite welcome! I am glad you found the info reassuring. If you'd like some help with the stress management, this is a good article to have as reference (for all kinds of stressful moments):
Self-Care a La Carte

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shlee
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Hi, it's me again. I'm kind of freaking out because I'm supposed to be getting my period soon, but it isn't coming. I'm getting some of the symptoms, like cramps and back pains, but the blood is MIA. This time last month I was on my period, so that's what I'm basing it on because I have pretty regular periods. I know my situation has really no risk, but I'm still freaking out that maybe I'm that that one in a million case that does get pregnant. I'm trying not to stress too much because I know stress delays periods, but it's really hard. Can you give me anything helpful to calm me down? I would really appreciate it.
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There isn't that one in a million: that person is not real. That's kind of like saying, "Maybe it is ME who is actually Santa Claus!" or

Have you already engaged in self-care to help yourself? If not, take a look here for some options with that: Self-Care a La Carte.

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shlee
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I know there is basically no risk, but I'm just really worried because I should have started by now... And I know the symptoms of pregnancy are very similar to that of a period, and knowing that doesn't help.
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Also, I've been really gassy lately and I know that's a sign of pregnancy.
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Hi shlee,

Sadly as you know there isn't a risk, there's not really further that facts, or information we could share, can get you. The rest of the way sounds to me like it could be travelled by doing emotional work.

It sounds to me like it's emotional stuff, not biological stuff (or knowledge about biology) which is getting in the way for you.

Some of this emotional work could mean just sitting with the negative feelings whilst trying to do some of the self care things listed in the article Heather shared (or your own self-care tactics)... That means actually not seeking things that calm you down in the short term, like reassurance or distraction (I'm so guilty of the 2nd one). It could mean attempting to write down, or use art to express the emotional backdrop to all those feelings and worries.

That can be difficult, but what people often say is that they feel like they got somewhere by doing it. I know for me playing music feels like I've processed some of my feelings even if I don't know how it happened.

Of course all of that is difficult, and some of it can be scary, and finding safe spaces to do that introspection can be really handy.

How doable does that sound to you?

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shlee
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I'll try. I just don't think I'm going to really calm down until I get my period or get my hands on a pregnancy test, which isn't really likely at the moment.
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I get that... but it may not be too long.

Maybe not being calm isn't too bad either? Especially if just accepting it for a while helps you take care of yourself and learn more about it. You might be under a bit of extra pressure until you CAN get hold of a pregnancy test or do get your period, but you can also make allowances, knowing

"I'm going to be stressed out, so I shouldn't make as many plans as I usually do and take things a bit easier."

Or the other way, spending time with friends, whatever makes it better for you.

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shlee
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Alright, I'll keep that in mind and try to do that. Thank you very much for your patience and help.
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I'm really sorry for bothering you again but a few hours ago I went to the bathroom ad saw that the pad I was wearing (I put it on because I would be out all day and wasn't sure if I'd start or not) had a streak of blood on it. Just one single streak. And since then I haven't bled anymore. Normally the first day of my periods are heavy. Could this be implantation bleeding?? I'm trying not to freak out but this is strange..
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Hi Ashley, welcome to the boards!

Would you mind asking your own question on your own thread? Is better that way so your post won't get lost. You can do that by clicking the "New Topic" button at the bottom of the page. Thanks! [Smile]

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shlee
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Oh that's awkward. I'm on my phone and it's signed in to my other account that I've been meaning to delete. I didn't even realize it. It'd still me, Shlee. That question is still mine.
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Well, implantation bleeding is very rare actually but not only rare, it's impossible when you didn't have a risk to begin with. [Smile]

Also, as the guidelines you agreed when signing to the boards is not allowed to have more than one account. Please choose one and let us know which one will be. Thanks. [Smile]

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shlee
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Implantation bleeding is rare? So I could just be spotting? Is spotting before a period, one that is late, normal? I feel like I should be startig my period soon, with my back pains and cramps and belatedness, but I've never spotted before so I'm very worried. Should I be?
And I know I shouldn't have two accounts. I made that first one, but for some reason I didn't think I actually made it so I made this one. As soon as I get home, I will be deleting the other one and keeping this one, don't worry.

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Oh that's awkward. I'm on my phone and it's signed in to my other account that I've been meaning to delete. I didn't even realize it. It'd still me, Shlee. That question is still mine.
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No worries; we just like to know what's what with people's accounts and have things sorted so we don't get confused or miss important things [Smile]

Spotting is a very normal thing that happens sometimes. Yes, it can happen at the very beginning of a period as a very slow start to the period; it can also happen at completely unconnected times. Occasional spotting is no cause for concern.

You know that pregnancy isn't possible, but you're clearly still worried about pregnancy. Do you have any sense of what's behind that worry and why you're finding it so hard to let it go?

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I figured the spotting indicated that I would be starting my period the next day, (today) but there's still nothing as of now. And the cramps and back aches that I had been feeling yesterday are gone. I'm worried about being pregnant still because my period is still a no show. I was able to brush off the pregnancy scare at first because I know that it is nearly impossible, but now that my period is late, I'm freaking out all over again. And recently, I've been peeing quite a lot. That may be due to me starting to drink more water lately. Could that have anything to do with my period being late? I've been eating less lately, and I've been drinking a lot more water, around 3 750 ml bottles a day. I just want to be able to shake this scare off for good.
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shlee
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Also, since I posted about my fear over two weeks ago, I've had trouble sleeping. I haven't been getting as much sleep as I should. But can two weeks really make an impact on my cycle?
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Sure, two weeks of freaking out over something that couldn't happen will make an impact--a negative one, at that, unfortunately--on your cycle. Did you know that there are many reasons why you may not get your period on time, and that pregnancy isn't the only one?

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shlee
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Yes, I'm aware pregnancy isn't the only reason for a late period. It just seems to be the only logical reason for me, because I get nervous about the smallest stuff. I'm trying to get a pregnancy test but it's hard. I hope my period will come soon so I don't have to worry about that anymore.
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You said you think pregnancy is "nearly impossible". Can you tell me why there's a "nearly" in there for you?

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I don't know.. There's still that small voice in the back of my head telling me that there's like a .0000000001 percent chance that I could get pregnant from what I did even though I know there isn't. I want to ask my mom if I can take a test just to ease my mind (I've told her that my period is late and I'm concerned but I have no risk for pregnancy) but I can't seem to get her without her boyfriend, whom I don't want to know about what's happening.
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Would it be a possibility to ask your mom if you can talk with her in private?

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I've been trying but she refuses to be without her stupid boyfriend. She's impossible.
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Oh, I'm sorry [Frown]

Is there another adult in your life who you think would be supportive of you?

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Actually, I was finally able to call her into my room as she was leaving the bathroom and was able to get her to agree to let me take a test to put my mind at ease. I was also able to finally tell her about the panic attacks I've been having lately, so I think she'll finally take me to see a doctor. I was able to get two birds with one stone! I feel better already.
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Oh, that's great. Sometimes, when we're feeling anxious or worried, feeling isolated or unsupported can make the worry much stronger, so I'm glad she made a bit of time for you.

I'm glad to hear too that you should be getting to a doctor soon. Panic attacks and anxiety are very not fun, and it's usually really important to get medical help for dealing with them and managing them.

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I just wanted to stop by and say that a pregnancy test will no longer be necessary. I woke up this morning to killer cramps and lots of blood. [Razz] I want to complain about the pain, but given that I'm so damn relieved, I'm just gonna thank Mother Nature and take some medicine. Thank all of you here at Scarleteen, because if I hadn't found this site I'd still probably be on Google, being 100% sure I was pregnant. You guys helped me cope so much, and I really appreciate it!! [Smile]
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