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Vhee
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Is it possible for me to be pregnant if I had dry sex? At first I had on sweatpants and my panties and he had on jeans and boxers. Then I took off my sweatpants and was just in underwear but he still had on his jeans, shortly after he pulled down his pants and we both had on underwear only but this lasted only for a short time period. My panties were very wet but I'm not sure if his boxers had pre cum. He did not fully ejaculate until after I had given him oral and he had manual sex until ejaculation and I swallowed his cum. He pulled up his boxers and jeans without touching his penis again. A few minutes passed by and he fingered me but his hand was dry. Can pre cum go through clothes? Could I still get pregnant? This happened 2 days after finishing my period which began Jan 13 to Jan 18. Also on Jan 24 I gave him oral again and he had manual sex for a short time until ejaculation where I also swallowed his cum. He then fingered me on the outside of my panties and then my actual vagina for a short time then proceeded to give me oral sex, fingered me for a little bit. Could sperm even last from him touching clothes and blankets?? [Frown]
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Edith_*
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Hello there Vhee! Welcome to Scarleteen! [Smile]

Have you had the chance to look through our main site and read the wonderful material we have there. For example, this link have a lot of good information that I am sure is going to be very helpful.

Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

So, why don't you give this article a chance and, if after that you need more help, I'm happy to do so. [Smile]

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Vhee
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So if he had sperm on his hand and fingers me I can't be pregnant
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Unless someone's hand is dripping and filled with fresh ejaculate and immediatly -- most on purpouse -- puts that hand on the vulva or vagina of someone else, pregnancy is not an issue. But, I hope we can both agree that this case scenario is *really* extreme. [Smile]

Most of times people touch something -- if not everything -- without even noticing. The bed, a pillow, a blanket, another part of their body, etc. Sperm cells are very delicate and they can't survive easily.

I'm going to give you this link, and I hope after reading it you can have a better understandig of this:

Who's Afraid of Sperm Cells? [Smile]

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Vhee
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I'm just really scared [Frown] This is something serious and I'm not ready for this [Frown]
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I hear you Vhee. And I am sorry you are scared. [Frown]

If it helps you a little to hear it this way, pregnancy is not an issue here, although your readiness is.

Have you told your partner how you feel about this? Telling him that you don't feel ready for this? If so, how did that go? (and if not, is this something you would like to do?)

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Vhee
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Yeah I want to tell him
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Vhee
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So if he had sperm on his hand and fingers me I can't be pregnant
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Okay, and what has stopped you from telling him? What do you think you need to tell him?

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Vhee
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Well I thought about maybe I could get pregnant but I kept going anyways and I want to say something but I don't say anything because I feel weird talking about it
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Well, when are are going to be sexual with someone else is *very* important that we feel comfortable talking about it first. That's one big part of being ready. I know that at first it might feel "weird" like you say but hey! if we are letting other people touch our bodies what can be more weird than that, right? [Razz]

When we are scared about something, "keep going" is not the best thing to do. When we are scared we need to pay attention of why we are scared and what can we do to feel better, safe. Know what I mean? Is like, for example, you are driving your car towards a wall and you are scared of crashing. You don't keep going until you crash, right? (or at least I hope not! [Smile] )The best thing to do is turn around and look for another road that doesn't have a wall infront of us. [Smile]

I'm going to give you these links and I hope reading through them could help you a little:

Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist

Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist

Whoa, There! How to Slow Down When You're Moving Too Fast

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Vhee
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Okay I feel guilty [Frown] because honestly me and my boyfriend are dating sceretly [Frown] my parents are really strict and I feel ashamed at some of things I did [Frown]
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Having to hide your relationship, and feeling guilty or ashamed about being sexual are both big signs that taking part in sexual activity likely isn't a good choice for you right now. You've said you feel weird talking to your boyfriend about that, though, do you want some help figuring out how to make it a bit easier?

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Vhee
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Yeah I would really appreciate that and tomorrow I plan on talking to our school nurse
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Glad to hear you're going to talk to the school nurse. [Smile] As for help having discussing this with your boyfriend, this piece is a really good starting place: Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

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