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laurids333
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Im just going to be honest, i had sex with my girlfriend without a condom and she wasnt on the pill. I dont want to make excuses but i feel i have to say that i did pee before sex and shower so according to sience i shoouuuld be in the clear. She is supposed to get her period today so if she gets her period today (we had sex 3 hours ago) or in the next 5 days (its sometimes irregular) does that mean she isnt pregnant and wont be. I will of course use condoms in the future.
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Heather
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Am I understanding you are saying that you engaged in intercourse, but used withdrawal, and did so perfectly?

Also, if your girlfriend is not comfortable with that, is she aware that emergency contraception is likely an option for her to have more effective protection from pregnancy?

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laurids333
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To my knowledge yes i used it perfectly. She is comfortable with that. What i cannot seem to find an answer to on the internet (apart from yahoo) Is if she gets her period, does that mean we are in the clear. As i stated above we are going to use protection from now on, or stay away from sex.
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Heather
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Menstrual periods occur because a person did not become pregnant in the previous cycle. When someone becomes pregnant, that lining is not shed because it is needed for an embryo to develop.

So, yes, someone having regular periods makes clear that person is not pregnant.

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laurids333
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Thank you for the answer! You are fast and effective. i will look into donating when the next paycheck arrives [Smile]
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laurids333
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Bumping this thread, she got her period yesterday, but does that really mean she isnt pregnant cant the sperm just survive through the period and get her pregnant next month?
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Patricia H
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Hey there,

Just wanted to quote Heather's most recent answer to your thread:

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Menstrual periods occur because a person did not become pregnant in the previous cycle. When someone becomes pregnant, that lining is not shed because it is needed for an embryo to develop.

So, yes, someone having regular periods makes clear that person is not pregnant.

I know you're worried that you might have gotten her pregnant, but the scenario you've created is just not realistic. Sperm are very delicate and sensitive to their environment; during a woman's period, blood and uterine lining is being shed consecutively for several days. Not only would the sperm not be able to survive in the vagina due to the normally acidic environment (sperm are basic in chemical composition), but in the process of so much material exiting the vagina, sperm wouldn't have anything to hold onto without being swept out as well.

It's understandable to have such fear about sperm and pregnancy when you don't know too much about either. That's okay. I'll leave you with an article here about sperm and just how delicate these little buggers are in hopes I can help you understand those fears and realize that they're not exactly realistic.

Who's Afraid of Sperm Cells?

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laurids333
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To be fair, i read what you are saying and its nice and making me fell calm i have already read the article. But i think i need an yes or no answer i have some sort of panic attack and it would be nice to be a 100 % sure she isnt pregnant also so when i get the "attacks" i can tell my brain: calm down she isnt pregnant and she wont be. So if i have read the article and your answer correctly the sperm will sweep out and she wont become pregnant from it? I could tell my self the answer but i need someone to say it to me.
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laurids333
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Sorry if i wasnt clear in my message right there what i mean is if possiple i would like a yes or no answer [Smile]
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Hi laurids333,

I totally understand you when you say you want someone to tell you what the answer is because you're having a panic attack. But given the experience I've had (along with the rest of our volunteers here) working with users like you on this site in the past, it's not really up to us to take your panic attack away for you; it's really up to you, and only you, to do something that powerful to yourself.

What we can do is help you come to your own conclusions yourself, because figuring things out and trusting yourself is extremely powerful and will serve you in your most difficult moments for the rest of your life. Like right now.

You've already answered your own questions. We helped to explain why you are correct to think so. Now all you have to do is trust yourself. Can you help us in return by doing that?

And, no need to apologize: we understood you perfectly. [Smile]

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Well i reed my own answer and then your answer and Heathers and i found the "yes" i was looking for. I actulay think i learned a valuable lesson that i can use for the rest of my life. Thank you for listening and if you are still reading this i hope you have a wonderfull day where ever you are on this planet! [Smile]
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Serika22
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I need the answer please somebody.....

if you had sex on june 27 and your cycle came on july and august. august 15 was your last cycle then you sleep with your boyfriend on august 27. does that mean the other guy the father or the boyfriend is the father. And your due date is may 22,2014

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Hi Serika, could you please start your own topic? It makes it much easier for us to keep track of everyone's questions that way. Thanks!

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