Me and my bf have been having sex for about a month already at least 4 times a week or more. We've been dating 4 years almost 5 and it's about a month ago we firsts started having sex. The problem, or my problem is that he last less than 3 mins before he ejaculates. Today it literally lasted only 10 seconds. The longest about 5 mins. I have asked him before about his previous lovers and he said he's lasted longer but all of them they weren't in a relationship. More like a one night stand. We are both 21 . We do a little bit if foreplay before but it's mostly for me. The times iv played with him before sex he lasts less. I get upset because I never get pleasure except in foreplay. I get pretty upset idk is this normal ? And why does this has to do with him wanting to get over sex with me? He's my first sex partner so I don't anything about this.
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What you're describing isn't unusual at all. As you'll read in the advice column i'm linking you too, the average time for someone with a penis to orgasm and ejaculate after vaginal intercourse starts is less than six minutes. That's only average though. Many, many people take less time than that.
I hear you describing that your sexual activity ends with intercourse. This doesn't have to be the case. if you're still not feeling sexually or emotionally satisfied, you and your boyfriend can engage in other sexual activities after intercourse.
I also hear you describing intercourse as sex. I'd like to put the idea out there that it's all sex, and none of it is more important or significant than any other sexual activity.
These articles might be helpful for you to read.
How do you feel about talking to your boyfriend about mixing up your sexual activities a bit, and doing other things you enjoy after intercourse?
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