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OrientallyStitched
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Hi,
Me and my boyfriend participated in manual sex in March, I believe on the 9th. He fingered me first than did oral. Afterwards, I gave him a handjob, and believed I washed my hands. On the 18th is when I then received my period, and it lasted until Sunday, 7 days, like it usually does. On that Friday though, 2 days before my period ended, I started to feel nausea and my stomach was extremely upset and I had frequent urination. I also had what seemed to be constipation, and kept burping and farting ( I know, disgusting!). I asked him if he perhaps had semen on his fingers when he fingered me, and he said no, and that he made sure of it.I went to the doctor on the 25th, and he said it was just a stomach flu that lasts longer than 24hrs, which made me less worried. But it's been 20 days and my stomach still feels upset. I thought that a stomach flu/virus would be over in a week perhaps 2. I read that my symptoms such as constipation, burping and farting was normal in early pregnancy (yahoo and wikianswers) which began to make me worry again. I also noticed that I'm getting belly fat but that could just be from me overreacting, and when I'm in the position of sitting up from laying down, the area between my stomach and pubic hair rises, which makes my stomach look sort of pregnant. I haven't had sex, and whenever me and my boyfriend did anything, we still had clothes on. I read the article "Pregnancy Scared?" multiple times, but I'm still very worried! Please help, and than you so much!

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Heather
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Welcome to the boards. [Smile]

Given you read that article, which makes clear that you didn't engage in any of the kinds of contact that can create a pregnancy, why do *you* think you're still concerned about a pregnancy?

As well, since you are still concerned about it, can I ask why you haven't taken a pregnancy test to help alleviate those concerns?

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OrientallyStitched
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I think I'm still concerned because of how my stomach feels, and what I've read of the internet. Such as you can still get periods even during pregnancy. And this is offtopic, but I had a dream that a teacher of mines told me I was pregnant, and in that dream, I was shocked and said I couldn't be. And lately, I've been hearing the word pregnant so much, since one of my mother's friend's daughter ended up being pregnant, so I've been very nervous lately :/ I would take a test, but I'm only 15, and don't have a means of actually going out and buying one, without any suspicion from my mother.
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Heather
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You can't get periods during a pregnancy. You *can* get different kinds of vaginal bleeding, but not a menstrual period. So, if you had something that felt like your period, looked like your period, acted like your period, and happened around the time you expected your period? You had your period: and are not pregnant.

The internet -- and my inbox -- also tells me every day I can lose 20 pounds in a week, make $2000 a day from working at home, and so on. Doesn't make it true. [Smile]

As well, your dreams aren't prophecies: they're mostly just a reflection of what you're feeling and experiencing in the past and present. Since you're having pregnancy anxiety, it's not a shocker you had a dream like that.

You know, if you have continued to feel lousy a couple weeks after a flu diagnosis, it'd make sense to see your doctor again, just for your health. I'd advise that (not because I think you're pregnant)). And when you see that doctor again, you can ask them to run a pregnancy test for you: legally, your sexual health information is protected, so your doctor can't share you asking for that with your mother unless you ask them to or give that permission.

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OrientallyStitched
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You don't know how relieved I am right now!
Thank you so much!

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Heather
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You got it. [Smile]

It also sounds like the sexual activity you DID participate in might have been too fast for you, in the sense that you're not at a place yet where you are NOT freaking out about it. What do you think?

If you agree with me and need help slowing things down, so you're only doing things you feel as close to 100% comfortable with -- before, during and after -- as possible, and really are the right pace for you, I'm happy to talk with you about that.

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