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So a little backstory before I go into my concern story. I am 18, was a virgin prior to him, but when I was 15 I had an incident with a guy that was against my consent, but I did not stop it in time and he forced himself in me , causing my cherry to pop. It was incredibly painful and there was a lot of blood, which I expected.

Anyways, Me and my current boyfriend have been sexually active for just over 2 months now . we have a great sex life, or have been having one for the last 2 months. Last weekend he came to visit me in college (we live about 3 hours apart)after not seeing each other for almost a month. That being said, we were a little excited and had sex around 5 times the first night (and morning ). I was really sore and couldn't really do it the next night, it hurt quite a bit. Right after it I also got really immense pain in my lower abdomen and was quite bloated.

Regardless, we still engaged in other activities.Even though I never had problems with natural lubrication (he usually goes down on me before sex and it gets me quite wet), I suggested we should buy lube and maybe it will hurt less for me. So we did, and while it hurt less the first time, I couldn't go too long before the pain got too much.
[Confused] [Roll Eyes]
So we went the rest of the night and most of the next day without sex, but eventually we tried to give it a try . It hurt upon insertion but got better a bit into it, however still hurt a bit. I then felt myself being way wetter than usual , and told him to pull out for a sec, and when i ran my hand down there it was full on bleeding. I am on the pill so it was not period or spotting, but just blood. This really freaked me out and it bled for quite a bit. I knew it couldn't have been my hymen because as I mentioned it hasn't happened.

I was really sore and uncomfortable for a few days after and unable to have sex for about a week.

So I'm wondered if there's anything else it could be and why I bled? Is there some sort of internal injury? My bf is pretty regular sized, maybe a little thicker than most . While I like him to go deep, we go pretty slow usually, nothing too rough.

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Robin Lee
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Hello kittykatkat and welcome to Scarleteen,

First of all, I am sorry to hear that you were sexually assaulted by that guy when you were fifteen.

Secondly, it's not surprising to hear that you were sore and that you bled.

Engaging in intercourse five times in a fairly short period of time is, for most people, an experience comparable to a hugely intense workout (maybe even an athletic competition). One would expect to be sore after doing that and would expect the soreness to last a while. The vaginal and vulvar tissues are no different from any other part of the body in this way; it takes them a while to heal after an intense experience. The vaginal tissues are pretty sensitive, and the bleeding was likely from all that friction, particularly if you weren't using lubricant initially. People who are on the pill often have thicker discharge, which can also lead to more friction during intercourse.

Are you still experiencing any soreness or bleeding ?

[ 02-04-2013, 07:42 AM: Message edited by: Robin Lee ]


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That makes sense, thanks a lot for the response.I guess after hearing that if your boyfriend can go 5 times in a night its something special you forget that for the girl it's a physical challenge also [Razz]

No I am not, however I am a bit scared now for the next time we have sex and it hurting/bleeding again. Hopefully if we start of with lube right away it won't happen.

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