First of all, thank you for this site. So helpful and very open. This is my first post/first day even being a member and i wish i found this sooner. Well, my boyfriend and I have been dating 2 years and we're pretty set on abstinence. but we're still very sexual people, so, you know, we make out a lot. We've never been naked but a few times we've just been in our underwear. Recently, he's started to finger me. but this is through two layers of clothing (usually underwear and leggings) it feels nice, but pretty soon it starts to hurt and i think it's the friction from the fabric. I know it doesn't hurt cuz it's too tight, because he usually uses one finger and i've used 2 on myself and it's fine. I can tell it's from the fabric, and it can really hurt sometimes. I'm wondering if too much friction like this can be harmful to.. my vagina walls or something? or if doing this in general is a bad idea *health* wise? thank you!
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Welcome to Scarleteen, and thank you for the compliments!
Whenever something feels painful or uncomfortable, it is a good idea to not do it. So, it's fine to have manual sex that way, you'll just want to be sure to stop once it starts to hurt. Maybe you can experiment with ways to engage in manual sex that don't hurt you?
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"The question is not who will let me, but who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand Posts: 9192 | From: Cologne, Germany | Registered: Sep 2005
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