I don't know if anything is wrong with me, but I'm seventeen and I'm not a virgin, my boyfriend of two years and I have sex quite a lot. But I don't think I orgasm and I don't cum. Well I don't think I do, but even if I masturbate I don't cum or orgasm, I just get really wet. Unless that's cum, but it's clear in colour, so I am really unsure, but I am scared that something is wrong with me. I have been masturbating from a young age, could that have anything to do with it? Could I have done it so much that I just don't orgasm anymore? HELP!
-------------------- Lolly- Posts: 3 | From: Australia | Registered: Dec 2011
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lollysportz: Please be patient with us. Sometimes it takes a little while before we can get a response back to you.
When you say you don't cum, if you mean female ejaculation - not all women do. And for those who do they won't every time. When you masturbate, is there a point where what you're feeling becomes more intense at all? Spent some time experimenting to see what all works better for you than other things? Also, are you finding that you're able to focus on pleasure - not having your mind wander to other things?
-------------------- "Sometimes the majority only means that all the fools are on the same side" ~Anon Posts: 3415 | From: Pennsylvania | Registered: Jan 2008
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Hi Lolly, welcome to Scarleteen! Please don't double post your question. It's against the guidelines you agreed to when you signed up. We get to questions as quickly as we can. Thanks!
It doesn't sound like anything is wrong with you. It can take people some time to figure out what they like and how to reach orgasm. Not everything will work for everyone, so experimenting is definitely needed. I don't think starting to masturbate young would have any impact on this.
Can you tell us a bit more on what you're expecting to feel from orgasm? Some people expect something amazing and earth-shattering every time, and that's not always a sound assumption to make. Too, there's a distinction between orgasm and ejaculation, for both men and women, but especially for women. Many women don't actually ejaculate or "squirt" when they orgasm, and there's nothing wrong with that.
So, let's start with that and go from there
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