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Moneasha113
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Hi Scarletteen! You've given me good advice before and I was hoping you would answer a question that has been bothering me for a while.

I'm a 18 year old girl (and a virgin) and I masturbate. A lot. Sometimes, I watch porn or read erotic stories when I masturbate. Sometimes I do this daily. And for the longest time, I had no problem doing these things.

A few days ago, I read an article in Newsweek magazine about sex addiction, and they said frequent masturbation/watching porn could be signs of a sex addiction. Is this true? Do I have a problem?

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Heather
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Most people who have credibility in sexology and sexual health are not on board with the way sex addiction is presented in the mainstream media. While we will talk about sexual compulsivity, most of us strongly feel an addiction model -- which is designed to address external substances, not behaviours or parts of who we are -- is very problematic in regard to sex. On the other hand, any behavior can be or become compulsive, including sexual behaviour.

However, I'm not even sure any of that matters, because frequent masturbation is very common among people and always has been. And many, many people have viewed or used pornography through history.

Do either of these things feel like things you do when you really don't want to, but you can't seem to stop yourself? Do they feel out of control to you? Are they making you unhappy or getting in the way of the whole of your life?

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Moneasha113
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No, they don't make me feel out of control or unhappy at all. Before I read that article, I had a perfectly happy life. I would just do them when I was alone/had free time.
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Then it doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about.

Compulsive behaviour -- including when people use the word addiction to describe it -- is behaviour that is or feels out of control: that feels like you do something without really choosing to do it, or even when you are trying to choose to do something else.

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