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liveeveryday_88
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I'm seriously stressing and I just feel alone and want to be alone. I need some advice. I've already went to doctors but they just were too busy telling me I wasn't pregnant from this dry humping.
I'm a Christian so I believe in saving sex for marriage. I have a boyfriend of three months that isn't a Christian, but believes the same thing. So sometimes we improvise with dry humping. First it was with clothes on, then we tried it with clothes off. Our private areas didn't touch. He never ejaculates or if he feels like he's about to he would stop and sit to the side to calm down.
Last Saturday, we dry humped with clothes off. He rubbed his penis against my vagina, but he didn't enter. We weren't wet at all, very dry and uncomfortable. I would have felt it because he uses his fingers instead of his penis to enter me. He ended up being a little too rough so I had him stop because my vagina was swelling shut on the outside. He touched me with his fingers to see how tender it was, very painful by the way.
I have had a light cramping pain since then. This was on October 8 to be exact. He tells me I'm not pregnant and I went to a doctor to check on my bladder infection from a week ago. She said I was fine and I wasn't pregnant, but I know that it was too early to be sure.
My boyfriend sees that I'm paranoid and tries to help me relax, but I need to know. If he did not ejaculate or pre-ejaculate and touched the outside of my vagina with his penis, could there be a possibility of pregnancy?
If this helps, my periods are irregular, at least 40-50 days apart and my last one ended September 13.
Thanks for the helpful advice in advance

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Something you need to know is that clothes-off, genitals directly rubbing together isn't outercourse, isn't "dry humping." When it comes to what it really is, especially per what the risks are, that's a lot more like vaginal intercourse: all the same risks of pregnancy and STIs apply. It seems like your boyfriend either isn't being honest with you about the risks or doesn't understand them himself. By all means, if he is not ejaculating, then the risks are much lower, but there are still risks there.

I know that's got to suck to find that out now when you're scared if you didn't know that, but it's really important we know what risks we might be taking to make the choices we want to with sex, okay?

You're right, it's simply too early to know about pregnancy. You're going to have to wait at least another week before you can test for that.

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thanks and yes it does suck. This response has made me more scared then ever. To make things worse, I still live with my parents. So I really don't have anyone to put all my stress relief on. My lower half of my body feels like my period is coming. If it was the regular 28 days, it would've start on October 11. I'm still waiting, even though I am irregular. I'm very very scared and just hope I don't lose my mind. I told my boyfriend I was scared, he just told me whatever happens, he'll be there with me.
Thank you.

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Do you want to talk about your feelings around this here? If so, we're around and happy to listen and talk with you.

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