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Im 23 im single and i never had sex!! I sometime play on myself but i broke my hymen im very worried and im sad bec my future husbine is maybe going to get mad bec i broke my hymen i dont know what to say to him or what to do i been cryin!! what should i say to him or what should i do should i be worry about me???? am im stell a virgin??? please help


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Whether you have a hymen (now called the corona) or not is not connected to virginity. While virginity is just a concept, not a physical state of being, and that concept can be different in different cultures, the most standard definition refers to whether someone has had sex or not. So you are still a virgin by that definition.

As well, the corona usually wears away on it's own, so even if you still had remnants of it now, you likely wouldn't by the time you were ready to have sex.

Why don't you check out these articles for more information about this:
Magical Cups & Bloody Brides: Virginity in Context
My Corona: The Anatomy Formerly Known as the Hymen & the Myths That Surround It
20 Questions About Virginity: Scarleteen Interviews Hanne Blank

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The hymen (which we now call the corona), doesn't actually break the way it is generally imagined. Rather, it wears away over time from hormonal changes, menstruation and general activity. For most women, the corona is partially or fully worn away by the time they first have intercourse.

For this reason, it's really hard to say whether you are still a virgin, because the word doesn't hold universal meaning. It means something different for everyone.

These article may also help you:
Magical Cups & Bloody Brides: Virginity in Context
My Corona: The Anatomy Formerly Known as the Hymen & the Myths That Surround It

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[ 10-07-2011, 01:06 AM: Message edited by: September ]

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