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OpheliaBedelia
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It's been about five months since my boyfriend and I have been sexually active (and because of summer break, we've had about 3 months of activity). During this time, we've rarely strayed from traditional missionary position; it is definitely our most successful and mutually enjoyable position.

We have both been somewhat open to the idea of trying new positions (and have, to a rather small degree) but general awkwardness has prevented our branching out. Especially with precarious rooming situations, we were somewhat hesitant to pick curiosity (which required bravery, time we were afraid we didn't have, and new skill-sets) over a more convenient form of enjoyment. Thankfully, our future rooming situations will be more fortunate and roommates more communicative, so the time aspect of this problem will be less unpredictable. When summer break is over I am excited to try again, but worry about possible obstacles preventing our attempts from being successful.

I think my main concern is my cluelessness when it comes to "complementing" my boyfriend's penis outside of missionary position. When my boyfriend's penis is erect, it lies flat against his stomach and it does not move from this position easily. Attempts to move the penis past a certain acute angle can be painful. After a somewhat unfruitful search for answers, it seems that this is because the suspensory ligament of the penis, which supports the penis when it is erect, is "tighter" in younger men. It's been rather difficult finding out any more relevant information about this part of the anatomy without getting inundated by pages advertising penis enlargement surgeries, which also seem to involve the suspensory ligament.

I certainly don't want to imply that there is anything wrong with either of our anatomies, I just worry about our finding ways to experiment with sexual intercourse without risking hurting him or putting myself in some difficult-to-maneuver positions.

I do celebrate the successes we've had with missionary position, and would not be terribly upset if it were our only really successful option. However, I am unsure how to proceed... should we continue to experiment, or will doing so risk hurting him?

(Also, I hope this isn't breaking the forum rules; I'm sorry if this has crossed the line of explicitness. I was just hoping for advice on how to approach the rut I think we might not need to be stuck in.)

[ 07-15-2011, 06:00 AM: Message edited by: OpheliaBedelia ]

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If he is actually worried about how his penis looks while erect then he can talk to his doctor about, but if there's no pain and this isn't something that's changed then it doesn't sound like anything is wrong. Just to get that out of the way.

About sex positions - yeah, you should always stop if it hurts (assuming pain wasn't what you were going for). Maybe there are only a few positions that will work for you; that's OK! You can keep trying new things, and branch away from what the "books" suggest. Find things that are fun and mutually pleasurable for both of you and go with that.

Also, not all sex has to involve intercourse. There are lots of sexual things you can do with one another that will get you out of the missionary position and doesn't involve his penis in your vagina. Again, go with that feels good and is fun!

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OpheliaBedelia
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Yes, this seems to be the case. He doesn't seem to be hurting innately and is healthy,etc., so I also don't think it's a problem.

I suppose what I'm still (probably irrationally?) worried about is that one day we'll get overenthusiastic and he'll end up with an injury that didn't need to happen.

Am I underestimating the "durability" of his penis? I am hoping that unwanted pain will be avoided if through clear communication, but... is there a chance that something regrettable could happen in a split second? Is such cautious thinking silly?

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It's pretty unlikely that a serious injury could happen before either one of you realized something was wrong. What's far more likely is that he'd be uncomfortable and the two of you could adjust before anything happened.

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Thanks so much. That makes me feel much better about things.
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You're so welcome. [Smile]

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