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overthemountain
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I know this is probably the most common thing on this thread but I could really use some help.

Me and my boyfriend started having sex about 4 months ago. I'm super comfortable with him and feel very aroused whenever we try to have sex. I'm on the pill and we use TONS of lube. He's got a tad above average sized penis but nothing that should cause issues. Despite having the perfect circumstances, it's terribly painful for me. I figured the first time it would hurt, but it's gotten more painful every time. The pain is around my inner labia, specifically the lower area towards my taint (inappropriate word?). It burns, too. It also burns when I pee after but not for long.

Ugh! It sucks! I love my boyfriend so much and want to be able to enjoy sex with him! It's really starting to take a toll on me. I feel like I'm broken and it's really hard for me to deal with. Any help would be hugely appreciated.

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Okay, so it sounds like you've already tried most of the standard suggestions (making sure you're relaxed and aroused, using plenty of lube).

Have you see a doctor? You may have some sort of infection that's contributing to this pain. If you haven't already discussed this pain with a doctor, that's the first place I'd start.

(Also, if you are going to see a doctor, the one who you mentioned in this post probably isn't a good one to talk to about this issue. If you'd like help finding another health care provider, let us know.)

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overthemountain
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Woah. Totally forgot about that post! Feels like so long ago.

I had a pap and an exam a couple months ago, after we had started having sex. She said everything seemed normal. I'll ask the next time I'm there for a birth control fill-up but it's kind of hard to get attention from the nurses because I go to a free clinic. Also, I know I don't have any sort of STI because me and him haven't have any other partners. I haven't had any other problems or symptoms.

Thank you so much for replying!

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The only way to know if you have an STI is to get tested, so if you and your partner are being sexually active I recommend both of you getting STI screenings.

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Neither of us have had intercourse or have done any activity that could have given us an STD with anyone other than each other.
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If neither of you have had any sexual activity than your risk is very low for having an STI. (Sometimes people say they haven't had "sex" though and it's hard to know what that means - some people only mean intercourse.)

Without sexual contact, could I have an STI?

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Thanks for the article, but neither of us have even done manual sex with anyone but each other and neither of us have herpes (mouth or genital).

Is there anything besides an STI that could be causing these issues?

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We aren't doctors and even if we were there is no way we could diagnose you over the internet. The best thing to do is just to talk to your gynecologist.

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Ok, I will. Thank you for trying to help! I really appreciate Scarleteen and everything it does for young people like myself.
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