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So my bf & I were making out. I had nothing on & he had nothing. He didn't come but his penis did touch my vagina (not a lot tho). How much of a chance is there for me to get pregnant?
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Are we talking about his penis just grazing your vulva while doing something else, or about you two having direct contact where you were rubbing genitals together?

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A little of both
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The rubbing tho was not very much because as soon as we realized it we covered himself with underware
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Oh I'm sorry...I didn't realize that in my first post I said he was naked, he had under ware on but it moved & there was direct contact for a minute
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If he was wearing underwear, and there was only direct contact for a second when it shifted, you probably don't need to worry about this.

But it does sound like you two might be getting close to the point where direct contact seems likely: have you started talking yet about safer sex and contraception, and about what you both do and don't think you want to do sexually? If not, how about starting those conversations together?

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I mean it may have been for a minute, but it was not long. Do you think I should talk to someone about EC or anything?

And we have talked, but only to a point

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So, for a minute, you had your genitals rubbing right on each other without any clothes on (either of you)?

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Yes
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Okay. In that case, if he did not ejaculate at all, then pregnancy still is probably not a likely risk here. It's risks of sexually transmitted infections which would be the larger concern.

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We both are virgins so Im not worried about that, this is the farthest both of us have gone.
How would I know if he ejaculated at all? Is it possible that he partially did without knowing? Because he said he didnt and I did not see or feel anything

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So, neither of you have ever had any kind of sexual (in this case, meaning genital, like handjobs or fingering or oral sex) contact with anyone besides each other?

If your partner ejaculated, he would know, and you likely would have, too, because you would have likely felt a sudden increase of fluids, kind of like wetting your pants can feel, if you catch my drift.

People with penises can pre-ejaculate, too, so there is that, which is why I can't say there was absolutely no risk here, and why people who don't want to risk pregnancy really need to either avoid direct genital contact or only do so when using a condom or some other method of contraception. That said, pre-ejaculate usually poses a very low risk all by itself, if it poses a risk at all (it doesn't always contain perm cells, and when it does, it's usually a very small amount).

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Correct, we have not.

I've heard that if he were to pee before hand then that help the risk go down? Which in this case he did.

And how much does the risk go down due to the fact that it was rubbing and he did not actually go inside?

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Okay, so it sounds like a risk of either STIs or pregnancy was very unlikely. And yes: urinating before sexual activity is known to clear the urinary tract of traces of sperm, and so makes it far less likely any will be in pre-ejaculate.

We don't have stats on the difference between rubbing and entry: I don't think anyone has studied that. The most likely reason why is that it's really not about that difference, it's about if semen winds up inside the vagina or directly on the vulva or not. As well, the difference between those two things may seem way different to people who haven't engaged in intercourse yet, but they're really very similar, especially from a sexual/reproductive health perspective.

For now, I think you'll be okay. But I do think you two need to recognize that it's clear you're starting to engage in activities where pregnancy can be a very real risk. How about talking more about that, making sure that's something you're both up to, and if you are, at least going out together and getting some condoms and lubricant so that if you choose to do this or anything like it again, you can have what you need to reduce those risks?

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Ok thank you very much, it's helped a lot.

But one last question, yesterday (the incident happened Sunday) I had a discharge that looked very familiar to a booger, any idea what this was?

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