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Hi! I'm a nineteen-year-old woman, and I can bring myself to orgasm pretty consistently through masturbation. But it takes me an hour of doing the exact same thing (rubbing gently in circles). I can get myself there faster (maybe 20 minutes) but I have to be very rough, which irritates the area, and the orgasm then is entirely unsatisfying. The orgasm I get from touching myself gently for an hour is significantly better, but still not overwhelming. And that technique is the only way I can really get any pleasure at all (I've tried various other things), which gets more than a bit boring after a while. Plus, my hands get tired (vibrators are ok, but not all that great for me). How do I get this to be more satisfying and not take as long? I can't always have time to myself for a whole hour!
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It can be really annoying when our bodies don't do what we want them to do. Unfortunately there's no one way of masturbation that works for everybody, every time, without fail. You could try getting yourself more turned on before you start masturbating in whatever way works for you (reading erotica, thinking about something or somebody you find to be a turn on, etc) or making a really nice time for yourself less frequently - again, whatever that means to you. Bubble bath, nice music, candles, etc. Take yourself on a date and let your body get in the mood and it may be more likely to respond.

And keep trying new things. Our bodies change throughout our lives and even just month to month and year to year. Maybe at some points during the month you don't want a vibrator anywhere near you and at other times you think it is just what you need. Go with that.

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