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He fingered me... and he went in quite deep... and i had like a fade of red on my nickers when i got in and yestuday i had the same when i wiped it was on the toilet paper do u think he popped my cherry? :/
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"Popping the cherry" is a figure of speech based on a bunch of different misunderstandings and misinformation about the vagina. There is nothing to "pop"deep inside the vagina.
You've made clear that you aren't using extra lubricant. If a partner is putting fingers inside the vagina without that, and/or is being too rough or hasty, it's easy for the vaginal opening or walls to get abrasions, which will often cause bleeding.
So, what it sounds like is that a) you need to be using lubricant and b) you need to make sure you're communicating with your partner and making sure to let him know to be more gentle and gradual with this.
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"Virginity" is a term that has a different meaning for everyone, and a term some people choose not to use at all. So, it really depends on how YOU define that term, and what significance it has to you.
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The thing is though, "sex" can mean a whole lot of different things (manual sex, oral sex, penis-in-vagina intercourse, etc.) and the hymen - that little bit of skin inside your vagina - doesn't usually break, but wears away over time and is usually mostly gone by the time you have any kind of sex at all.
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The thing is that there is no set medical definition for "virginity". The bit of skin that you are referring to, the hymen (or as it's now known, the corona) doesn't actually break the first time a woman has penis-in-vagina intercourse. Rather, it wears down slowly over time, and few women will still have an intact hymen by the time they have intercourse for the first time.
So, as Karybu pointed out (and as you can also read up on in the article Andy linked you to), virginity has only a cultural meaning. Thus, it's entirely up to you how you want to define it.
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