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Ok, so my friend thinks she may be pregnant. She's going to find out soon though. So her and I were trying to find facts on abortion.

She's afraid of giving birth or having an abortion, because she has an extreme fear of death. And it only got worse after trying to look up facts on abortions. Cause she's not really ready to have a baby.

Well a lot of the sites we found...were anti abortion so it's like they were trying to scare you out of having an abortion. How safe really is having an abortion and giving birth? I know women have it every day and nothing usually happens. But I want non bias facts please [Smile]

Thank you

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Both can be safe so long as they're done safely and the woman involved takes care of herself properly. Surgical, legal abortion in the first trimester is around ten times safer than childbirth, but that doesn't mean childbirth isn't an equally valid option and can't be safe. Which she chooses is going to be based on a whole lot more than just which is safe if she wants to make her own best decision (like, as you mentioned, her readiness to parent or desire to arrange an adoption).

Here's a solid piece on abortion for her: All About Abortion.

If she'd like to know more about childbirth, I'd be happy to give some links there, too.

Ultimately, this is going to be a conversation we'll best have with her, so if she'd like to have an options talk, we're glad to do it. She can also get pro-choice options counseling in-person if she likes, and I'd be happy to help her find a clinic for that.

However, the first thing she should do is to just take a pregnancy test. Putting a lot of energy into a pregnancy choice before an actual pregnancy is determined is putting the cart before the horse. And if she wants to consider abortion, the earlier she can find out if she's pregnant, the earlier she can get a procedure which makes it both less expensive and safer.

[ 12-16-2010, 09:12 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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