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overthemountain
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Alright so I'm 19 and I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half but before that we were best friends for about 2 years. We are absolutely in love, he's the best boyfriend ever, everything's great. Except one thing: we haven't had sex yet. Why? Well I was messing around with finding a birth control that didn't make me depressed for a while, then it was summer so there was nowhere to actually do it, then we were both really busy so I didn't have time to visit him, etc. Basically just stuff has gotten in the way. Now next month I'm having foot surgery and will be off my feet for a few months.

I'm pretty much just freaking out because I feel like there is no reason for us not to be doing it. He says I need to relax, that it's not like we don't do other things to satisfy each other, and that it doesn't matter, but I still feel anxious. I know it's because part of me feels guilty for him not getting some, but I'm not really sure where the rest is from. I guess maybe I'm scared that, since we've been dating for so long, we'll break up before we get to lose it to each other. I don't know. Help me out here?

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overthemountain
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Also, my vagina's RIDICULOUS. Even my doctor told me I have an "unusually tight" vagina, so I honestly don't even think it's going to fit.
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Heather
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This doctor: was this someone who is a sexual healthcare provider? And someone who does that who you know has had current education in the last ten years?

(Will get to the other stuff, too, just that that is such an outrageous thing for someone with current medical training in sexual health to say, especially with those words and no others, I want to check in on it.)

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OWL Dan
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Hi, You said that you were looking for birth control that didn't leave you depressed, did you know that there are other forms of bc besides pills? Here is an article that may help you.

Birth Control Bingo!

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