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I'm a 14 year old girl and I don't masturbate. I don't have any problem with it and I know it's completely normal, but I feel weird doing it. I've tried a few times, but I never feel any pleasure. I know where everything is down there and I know what to do, but it doesn't work. There's just nothing. I've never tried penetration, and I don't want to. My nipples aren't sensitive either at all. They just feel like the rest of my skin when I touch them. I have gotten aroused before, and even then I don't feel anything when I try masturbating.

I'm worried that in the future when I do have sexual intercourse it won't feel any real pleasure. Is this normal? I feel almost pressured to masturbate because everybody does.

[ 04-07-2010, 08:44 PM: Message edited by: ---Katherine--- ]

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Don't feel pressured-- whether you want to masturbate or not is your choice only. Many times, experimentation with different techniques of masturbation is effective, but if you are uninterested, uncomfortable, or feeling pressured to feel good, chances are it's not going to be a mind-blowing experience for you.

It sounds like you're not interested in intercourse right now, but knowing your body and what feels good to you is a great step toward being comfortable with someone else. (Also know that most women don't orgasm from intercourse or penetration alone; clitoral stimulation is key.)

All things considered, it's your decision whether to experiment or not! Do what makes you comfortable!

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I am actually very interested in sex. I know I'm not ready (I've never even been kissed), but I think about it a lot.
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I really wouldn't worry about this. Honestly, if nothing feels like anything at all, still, all over your body, but you don't have any disabilities or health issues that are impacting your nervous system outside of masturbation, chances are you just really aren't feeling it yet.

Maybe you're not identifying arousal correctly, maybe you're just not aroused enough to feel high sensation, maybe (probably) you still have some developing to do, maybe you have some baggage with masturbation, maybe you really haven't found what works for you yet. But since I assume you won't move forward with sex with a partner in your life unless you really ARE feeling things with them -- something you'll feel during kissing, for example, or even having your hand held -- I don't see any reason to assume there's a problem or worry about this.

[ 04-08-2010, 12:16 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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