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*a_dream_in_aqua*
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Porn. The word on it's own can lead you to all sorts of conclusions: taking advantage of women, hypersexual, teen boys, experimentation, sexual unhealthiness, sex education, etc. When my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to watch porn with him, at first I was kinda shocked and disgusted. But I have a really emotionally and physically healthy relationship with him. We trust each other and we're just trying to explore sexuality. I haven't told him anything yet, but I'm kind of interested to see what it's like. I mean, it's not like I've never seen anything pornographic (just look what's on TV these days!), but I'm wondering if this is a bad thing to indulge in? I mean, is it bad that I want to watch porn? I'm just looking for some thoughts on the matter. :-D Thanks!

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Heather
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This is one of those questions no one else can answer for you.

For instance, is it okay to eat meat? For myself, I don't think that it is. However, clearly, many other people think it is. When we're talking about things that are about personal ethics and values, unless someone is trying to push theirs onto you, no one else but you can say what's okay and what isn't and what's right or what's wrong.

When it comes to porn, there are a lot of issues to consider, from the ethical per how the porn is made and what impact it can have on people as groups, to how it makes you personally feel and what impact it may have on you and your relationships. Bear in mind, what porn is varies a LOT: it varies by what form it takes (such as stories or films), by what it contains (the messages of some porn are radically different than the messages of others), and a whole bunch of other variables.

So, what it boils down to is this: How do YOU feel about it? Does doing so feel okay to YOU? What limits and boundaries do you feel you need or want with it?

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*a_dream_in_aqua*
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With that said, I definitely feel okay with viewing it. I know what I'm looking for and I know what I won't and don't like. Anything unethical and sending wrong messages is not what I'm looking for. This is definitely something that I have thought about regardless of my boyfriend so I don't feel pressured or anything like that. This is good! I am comfortable and happy with what I know and desire. Thanks Heather!!

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