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Clarice
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Well, I am back with more questions stemming from my paranoia. Early this morning, my boyfriend and I were messing around, and I really need to know if these two situations pose a pregnancy risk to me so that I can stop stressing out:

1. He was fully nude, and I was fully clothed, although I did have very thin sweatpants on. He rubbed against me, as in we had "dry sex" for not a long amount of time. Is there anyway pre-ejaculate could have gone through both those thin sweatpants and my underwear? Also, I felt my pants after this happened, and they did not seem to be wet at all.

2. He was touching himself before I started touching him. When I started to touch him, he reached down and touched me with the same hand he was using to touch himself. I am now worried that pre-ejaculate could have been on his hand and got on me. I stopped him and immediately asked him if he had anything on his hand, and he said no. I even felt his hand right when he stopped, and it felt completely dry. He also told me that the last time he had an ejaculation was yesterday, and I do know for a fact he urinated several times since then because I was with him the entire day. Still, I cannot keep worrying about this. If there was even a small amount that got on me because of him using the same hand, should I start worrying?

Also, I do not know if this counts for anything, but I am three days away from my expected period. I am not saying I can't get pregnant during this time of my cycle. I know there are risks at any time. But should knowing this be of any reassurance to me in any way since I MOST LIKELY was not ovulating?

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Horizon
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1. Sperm can't infiltrate two layers of fabric unless semen was pretty much dumped on you. When the fabric is not saturated, (as yours were not) then you face no pregnancy risk.

2. When you have to start tracing back the transfer of semen or pre-ejaculate, that's a pretty good indicator that a risk will not be present. In effect, his hand would have to have been covered in semen to present a risk, and it sounds as though your situation was not that way.

You probably aren't ovulating around this time, but you are right in saying that there is always a risk, no matter where you are in your cycle. However, neither of these scenarios put you in danger of pregnancy, so it really makes no difference.

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Clarice
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Horizon, you keep saving me! Thank you so much! So, I shouldn't have much of a risk here since neither my pants nor his hand were dripping wet with pre-ejaculate?

I also have three more questions, if you don't mind. As far as research can tell, is the urination thing true about pre-ejaculate? I am most definitely not planning on having unprotected sex or anything like that, but when I get into situatons like the one I just asked about, I really often wonder. I heard from many sources that it is accurate, but I never know what to believe on the internet.

Also, Is showering with someone safe? I always think about the natural contact genitals have if you hug or kiss or get close to someone while showering, even if you are not meaning to have sexual genital-genital contact, if that makes sense. I don't want to do this if there is going to be a risk.

Finally, what about swimming with someone and having that same contact? Both bathing suits would obviously be very flimsy material and very soaked with water. Is there a chance anything can happen that way if the guy is aroused?

I will not do either of these if there is a risk. I'd feel rather odd asking him to wear a condom to just take a shower when we're not even trying to do sexual acts, so I think I would do without the shared shower if that is the case.

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Clarice
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Well, nevermind. I got my period today, or at least I think I did. Should I then safely assume that I will definitely be ok, even though this incident happened only three days before I was supposed to get my period? I don't know how that works with sperm surviving in the body for a few days and possibily impregnating someone after their period ends (if the body starts ovulating again soon after). I guess I should just stop being extremely paranoid and assume nothing happened because I got my period, though, right?
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Right. [Smile]

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