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okay ever since i last had sex with my boyfriend ive been unable to sleep straight thru the night. i wake up every two hours for no reason. at first i thought it was becuase i thought my birth control didnt work [but we also used a condom]. i think it might be because i went behind my mothers back and had sex when she trusted me not to. but im not sure. does anyone know any reason why? this same feeling came the last time we had sex over the summer.
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There could be a lot of reasons for those sleep problems, if that has been going on for some time now, I'd suggest you bring this up with your doctor.

Do you have problems falling asleep as well in addition to waking up multiple times during the night ?

When you say you wake up every two hours, is it because you're having nightmares ? What's going on in your head, how do you feel when you wake up during the night ?

How is your sleep schedule like ? How many hours do you usually sleep per night ? Around what time do you usually go to bed at night ? At what time do you usually wake up in the morning ? Is your sleep schedule pretty steady ?

Sounds like you could probably benefit too from having a talk with your mom about you being sexually active, if this is a cause for concern for you.

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its not an ongoing problem, it just happnes every once in a while...the first time when i lost my virginity and i didnt use a condom [i was on birth control], the second idr what happend to make it happen and now because i had sex on valentines day [we used a condom and i am still on birth contorl]

my mom thinks its anxiety.

i have no problem falling asleep just staying asleep. im not having any nightmares i just randomly wake up refreshed like i was never sleep in the first place. sometimes i may end up shakey with wierd thoughts in my head [family memeber dying, me being pregnant]. i usualy use the bathroom [#2] when i get up.

i go to sleep on week days between 11-11:30pm and wake up at 7:10.
weekends i fall asleep whenever.

my mother knows i am sexualy active.

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Sometimes life can have the tendency to get in the way of our sleeping comfortably. Some general things you can try as per the physical end is emptying your bladder and bowels before going to bed, listening to soft music while you drift off, and making sure you're not eating too close to bedtime. Also, have to tried meditating or yoga before climbing into bed, if it's something on your mind that doesn't let you get a restful night sleep, these attempts to clear our mind before bed can be helpful. It's possible you're having a dream that wakes you, and while you don't remember th dream the reasons behind it are still in your mind.

On a side note, it definately sounds like your feeling a lot of negatives after sex. If you're waking up worried about pregnancy, despite using two reliabe birth control methods, it might be a good time to really ask yourself if you're ready for the types of sex that pose a risk for pregnancy. This is also something you might want to have a sit down with your boyfriend about.

Additionally, if you're worried about having had sex when your mother "trusted you not to" is this something that you feel you might be able to talk about with her? I'm not sure what she may have said to you to give this impression, but it's obviously something that is bothering you. Perhaps talking to her about this would assist you in letting go of some of that weight you're carrying on your back in keeping this secret.

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