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My girlfriend and I are both virgins, and her hymen is still intact. The other day we were both naked and she was on top of me. For a few moments my penis and her vagina touched. I didn't penetrate her or brake her hymen, it was only a light rubbing. There was pre-cum on my penis head, but I hadn't actually ejaculated for a few days. In addition, since my last ejaculation (which was a wet dream) I had gone pee several times. I know stuff like this is always a risk for pregnancy, but given our history and circumstance what is the risk that she may be pregnant? Any advice would help. I'm really paranoid.
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Well, first of all, understand that a hymen is not a barrier for semen. Her hymen, even if your girlfriend has never had an kind of penetrative sex, is likely to have worn away to some extent, simply through things like menstruation and general activity. Hymens don't break all at once (unless we're talking very forceful insertion or some type of injury). For the most part, they wear away over time and for many women, there'll be very little of it left by the time they start having penetrative sex. And even if it was still mostly intact, it has no impact on whether or not she could get pregnant with genital contact.

If you had direct genital contact, and pre-cum was present, then you may have had a small pregnancy risk. You have also had a risk of STI transmission.

So. Your risk was very small, but if you absolutely cannot deal with having had a risk, then you may want to consider obtaining EC (which can be effective for up to 120 hours). You'll also want to schedule STI screens for the both of you. If you are both new to any sort of sexual contact then your risks for having an STI are low, but there are infections that can also be transmitted in other ways, so you'll want to get into the habit of taking charge of your sexual health. It's a good habit to be in. [Smile]

And next time? Just make sure you have some condoms handy. These articles should help you there:
Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To
Condom Basics: A User's Manual

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Thanks. I was wondering how much urination and time since last ejaculation affect the amount of sperm in pre-cum?
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Theoretically, both urination and time passed since the last ejaculation should decrease the risk of sperm being present in pre-ejaculate. I really cannot give you any real specifics on how much, but it's best to play it safe side and use a barrier when any pre-ejaculate or semen is present.

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