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Milana_xx
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Ok, so I was drawn to this site through Google, and I was hoping that Google would provide me with some answers as to losing virginity and breaking hymen, all that good stuff. It was brought to my attention in other topics that I've read on this site, that the hymen is just a piece of skin that can be worn out through strenuous activity, or just not be there because of other activities, or accidental penetration, and that it is merely a piece of skin covering the opening to the vagina. I've even looked at pictures, and I understand this.

Yesterday, I had an encounter with a guy friend of mines, and there was insertion. No biggie. Technically, that is called losing your virginity, because up until that point, I was never penetrated unless I decided to use my fingers. That is losing your virginity, correct? I think so, but either way, that is not the point.

I've had some trouble looking up and understanding a certain piece of muscle that is inside the vagina, so that I can get some insight as to what I'm touching when I finger myself, and how in the world this guy friend of mines said "he didn't pop my cherry," because he still felt something. To clarify, I did not bleed like some people said they've bled. I've felt that something on numerous occasions, and to be honest, I don't think it's my hymen, but something else. I've already cleared it with myself that I didn't have a hymen, which is probably possible to the fact that I am a flexible girl and I am very active in sports, and on numerous occasions I have fallen on something hard and hurt my poor vajayjay, lol.

But back to the question at hand. Is it possible that the thing I feel is still the cherry? Or could it be something else? Like the g-spot? I'm not even sure about that bit of information, because the thing that I touch is like a wall.

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Understand that virginity is really more of a social term than anything. It's so subjective and has no real meaning within the medical community. What your idea of "losing your virginity" is may totally differ from someone else's concept. For example, one person may define losing virginity as having intercourse, and someone else may define it as manual sex. So at Scarleteen, we don't have a set definition of virginity.

Also, understand that there is no fruit inside your vagina. If you open a medical text book, there will not be a diagram of the "cherry" inside. [Smile] "Popping cherries" refers to having sexual intercourse for the first time, (to most people) and the proverbial cherry is not a body part.

When you insert your fingers into the vagina, you probably are feeling a wall; the vaginal wall, and the vagina is a muscle. But certainly, it's not a cherry. Or apple. Or strawberry. [Smile]

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Milana_xx
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I really do thank you for the reply.
But I'm still not quite clear, isn't the wall to your vagina about 6 or so inches up? And is it normal to have some sort of blockage? Because that's what it feels like. It feels as though he could have continued to insert himself, but there was just something there preventing him from continuing. Am I making any sense? =/

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Milana_xx
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I really do thank you for the reply.
And I do understand the social terms of losing your virginity. Just like some say, "a woman has lost her virginity when she experiences the pleasure of an orgasm."
But I'm still not quite clear, isn't the wall to your vagina about 6 or so inches up? And is it normal to have some sort of blockage? Because that's what it feels like. It feels as though he could have continued to insert himself, but there was just something there preventing him from continuing. Am I making any sense? =/

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Maybe this article will help you sort out what you're feeling:

Pink Parts - Female Sexual Anatomy

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[Edit: Whoops, just realized what section I'm in!]

[ 06-05-2008, 04:07 PM: Message edited by: Leabug ]

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Just to clarify, the walls of the vagina that I am referring to are not horizontal-- in other words, its not blocking your vagina off like a shut door at the end of a hallway.

Strange example, but imagine a toilet paper tube. If you were to put your fingers inside it, they would probably hit the sides of the tube. In a vagina, those sides are the vaginal walls. The vaginal walls continue up the entire length of the vagina.

At the end of your vagina is your cervix, which is possible to touch. That's the only kind of blockage I can imagine you would run into. However, when you are very aroused and anticipating sexual intercourse, the vagina expands and the cervix pulls up, so insertion should not be blocked off.

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