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Now me and my girlfriend have have sex. but she's worried that the doctor can tell and will tell her parents...the reason being is I'm a year or so older than her but i am not 18 and neither is she at the time being. so I'll be turning 18 before her. now here is the deli ma her parents are kinda old fashion and don't think she should go see a OB/GYN till she is a year older than she is now...however by then i will be 18. and liable for rape bla bla bla. now we need to know if a doctor can tell or not or even can legally tell her parents. other wise i may end up in hot water...cause her parents aren't the most understanding people. (thank you for having this site its been a lot of help.)

[ 05-19-2008, 01:10 AM: Message edited by: dumbfoundedboytoy ]

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Hey. I've been there. Not with the sex thing but having something that I do NOT want my parents to find out, but that I had to tell someone about so I told my G.P. Unless your GF is really young, like 13, the doctor won't tell her parents. Doctors have a scrict confidentiallity. They generally won't divulge anything unless they think you or she is coming to harm. If she specifically asks the doctor not to say anything, and she assures them that you guys are having safe sex and blah blah blah then it shouldn't be a problem. My dad is a doctor and apparently the progression of decision making is something like this:

14 - some decisions
16 - more decisions
18 - all decisions

It may be different in the US though. I'm not entirely sure about all this as well.

Anyway, hope it helps.

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bee_is_me - Please do not respond in this section of the boards. It is for Volunteer replies only.

Dumbfounded - Bee is right, your girlfriend's doctor will have to keep everything she tells them confidential. If she wants to start gyn exams now (which would be a good idea) and does not have insurance of her own, she can try to find a Planned Parenthood or similar clinic in her area.

[ 05-19-2008, 02:42 AM: Message edited by: September ]

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Alright thanks for the information i think i can rest easy now.
I will talk with my Girlfriend and see if we can work out her getting checked out just because it should be done. We both know it but our fear of being found out was kinda in the way.

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