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celery
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So my boyfriend watches porn- and that doesn't bother me at all, I think it's a normal thing that most guys and even girls will watch.
But my problem isn't porn in general it's the kind of porn my boyfriend watches...

I go on his computer sometimes when I'm at his place and sometimes the previous internet history will pop up and there will be unusual "taboo porn" websites that he seems to have visited on more than one occasion.
It's called taboo..but its basically porn that involves incest. I haven't watched it so I don't know if it's really incest or just a role playing fantasy type thing or what it really entails.

Anyways my question is.. should I be worried or concerned about it?

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Have you tried bringing it up to him? What kind of porn a person watches is never indicative of only one thing, so you'll really have to ask him to find out why he watches that particular type of porn.

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In addition to what Orca said, Celery, have you read Looking, Lusting, and Learning: A Straightforward Look at Pornography? You've been around for a while, so maybe you have come across it, but it has some very good points I think you may relate to.

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I have thought of bringing it up to him, but had second thoughts about it because I figured ultimately it's probably not any of my business, and I also thought it would be uncomfortable for him to explain the kind of porn he watches because maybe he doesn't know why?

I don't know, I guess I could bring it up to him, but I was just wondering if anybody had known someone who also was into that kind of thing?

Once again I don't have a problem with him watching porn, but I was just curious as to if this is a really abnormal or unusual thing that I should be concerned? Or is it okay for someone to have an interest in this 'taboo' kind of porn.

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Pornography, for many people, is just a fantasy. Everyone fantasizes at some point or another, and a lot of it is about things we would never really do.

The genre of porn he seems interested in is a little strange, but ultimately, it doesn't seem like it creates strain in your relationship, am I correct? I don't think you have too much of a reason to be concerned.

(Also, does he have a roommate or family member that shares that computer with him? If so, then there is a chance that he is not the one viewing the 'taboo' porn in the first place.)

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