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hurleygirl
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ok, i was talking with my mom today, and I said "do you think I should go to a gynocologist now?" I'm 18...and my sister has been going to a gynocologist since she was 16 and shes 21 now. My mom said "Yes ill take you to a gynocologist."

The thing is, I have had sex. I do NOT want my mom to find out I'm not a virgin. The doctor can find out that I'm not a virgin because of the layer of skin that is broken..the hymen right? They can see that. I dont want her to find out that I'm not a virgin cause I told her that I'm waiting till marriage, but I've been with my boyfriend for a year and we both felt that it was time. What can i do? i dont want her to get suspicious. I cant tell my parents they will kill me and castrate my bf.

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Heather
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You need to be honest with your GYN for them to do their job, period. So, there's no need to worry about how a doctor might find out, because you need to be honest.

And your doctor is obliged to keep that information private, so there's no reason NOT to be honest.

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hurleygirl
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I dont want my mother to get suspicious when i ask her "please dont come in with me" cause I dont want her hearing this stuff. I'm gunna be 19 in a couple of weeks! and technically that's my own private information, since im not a minor anymore. I dont want her there. I saw your page on how the first appt goes, and that extra test they have to take if I'm sexually active. I need advice on how to take care of this situation

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Your doctor is likely to ask your mother to leave the examination room for your actual exam, period, just because in terms of malpractice and things, a whole crowd can't be in an adult's exam.

But if you're worried about them not asking her to leave, all you need to do is call the office in advance and let them know you need them to do that.

And if even that doesn't feel secure enough for you, then it's time to step it up per your age and just tell your Mom you feel like the GYN is your own thing and you'd just like to go to the whole appointment by yourself, full-stop.

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hurleygirl
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that sounds like an excellent idea, thank you so much, Heather, for you advice which always helps!

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