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88Jigowatts
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I'm a 17 year old male who has a crying problem, well more of a lack there of. I CAN'T cry. Sometimes when my girlfriend is crying over something, i really wish i could cry too, but i find that i just can't. I am afraid that my girlfriend thinks that i dont love her that much or i am uninterested in our relationship because i can't cry, even though that is certaintly not the case. I love her so much [Big Grin] . Can anyone give any insight as to why i am unable to cry?
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logic_grrl
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Some people cry much more easily than others, and some find it very hard to cry.

That can sometimes be because of stereotypes we've absorbed - e.g. that crying is "weak", or that "boys don't cry" - but sometimes it's just how people naturally are.

But there are lots of different ways to communicate.

How about telling her in words that you love her and don't want her to think you're uninterested just because you don't cry?

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missdiamond87
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oh erm well i got the oppersite problem i feel like i want to cry loads and loads the last few days have been really bad with this feeling of wanting to cry, but im not letting myself i dont know why i want to cry eaither im not on my period, ive been taking my anti depreasents ive been filling in job apps and im bk with my bloke (were sorting it all out but we still need to talk whcih we aint been able to do just yet)!

and i just feel soooooo sad its really strong feeling and it want lift and i can feel lie the tears in my eyes wanting to break out but im not gonna cry cos i aint got anything to cry about.

why do i feel like this?

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logic_grrl
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It sounds like you're feeling pretty unhappy.

Are you seeing a counsellor as well as taking the anti-depressants? If so, this is something you could talk to him/her about.

Wanting to cry all the time can be part of depression, or just regular unhappiness and stress.

And obviously not being able to talk to your partner about things you need to talk about can be a stress, especially if you're already feeling vulnerable.

In the meantime, it can help to try letting yourself cry - sometimes it's a relief and can make you feel a bit better.

Your sadness is real, whether you think you've got "anything to cry about" or not - it's not like you need a permission slip to be allowed to cry! [Smile]

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missdiamond87
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thanks i aint got counclling till march now its got cut to every 4 weeks now i just cant explane it!
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