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I've been taking the birth control pill Levlen 28 for about 10-11 months now and I've had no severe side effects; no nausea, vomiting, etc. and it seems to work wonders on my cramps every month.

I have a boyfriend of almost 3 yrs. and we just started having sex in August of this year. When we started everything was fine, I didn't and still don't get much pleasure from vaginal intercourse, but other than that we had no problems. Lately I've noticed that when we begin any sexual activity, I'm aroused and I do produce lubrication, but once we begin sexual intercourse, I "dry up" so to speak to where it becomes the friction becomes painful. I've found particularly in the woman-on-top position that my lubrication seems to disappear. My body now seems to associate woman-on-top with pain but I'd like to do him the favor of not having to do all the work once in a while.

I've read that birth control can cause low to medium vaginal dryness. Is this the root of our problem? Not being able to finish sex and having this problem has caused a lot of self-esteem issues for me and is frustrating both of us. I don't want a simple thing like this come between our physical bond we share. I know that most people would say, "use some water-based, latex-safe lubricant," but we've tried KY Liquid twice and both times it burned me so bad that we had to completely stop all sexual acts. Although, when we did use it, it was in the middle of sex when I felt myself getting dry. Could it have burned because of the irritation from the friction?

Could anyone give me any advice on what to do about this? Should I try the KY Liquid again BEFORE we start sex, or try another brand? I don't want to keep using it if I'm allergic to something in it. I saw in the Scarleteen store that Astroglide is by far the most preferable of lubricants. Does it even matter?

Thanks for any advice. This will mean a lot to our relationship.

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If you're not yet using a good lubricant, that's absolutely the thing to try, because that's likely a totally easy fix.

(In fact, even for people without lubrication problems, we always advise lube. The more slippery sex is it's pretty much always better: it even makes great sex greater for most people.)

Per the KY and your reaction to it I'd take a look at the ingredients and shop for lubes accordingly. Astroglide is good for most, but you may always want to look into very low glycerin lubes, too.

But too, if intercourse isn't very good for you, period, have you also considered engaging in more sexual activities which ARE, even with lube?

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