Ok so my boyfriend is begging me to have anal sex with him which he has engaged in before... I personally have never given it any thought. But now I am thinking, I'm sure its not the most comfortable thing in the world. I dont know how to ask my question without offending anyone, here goes, during anal sex is it possible or likely that the male partner would end up with my "wastes" on him?
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Condoms (and lube) should always be used for anal sex, even if you're STD-free and in a monogamous relationship - so the answer is "no."
btw, have you both been tested & been monogamous over at least a 6 month period? That's always important, regardless of what type of sex you're having.
Per cleanliness, as long as you wash regularly, your tuchus isn't a bastion of germs. For the most part, unless you're about to go to the bathroom, your rectum is free of waste material.
If you're fully aroused and your partner is patient, anal sex can be just as comfortable and satisfying as any other aspect of sex. Before he goes for full penetration, have him put on a latex glove & use his fingers first. That way you'll be relaxed. The key is to go SLOW. The tissues of the anus are a lot thinner and more sensitive than the vagina (and anal sex, for that reason, makes you slightly more susceptible to getting STDs).
You should never feel obligated to do anything just because your partner is asking for it. And if he's "begging" you - asking you repeatedly and nagging you about it - then you need to tell him that HE needs to calm down and wait until you're ready.
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