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HAPPILYMARRIED
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I have been married for almost 7 years and my problem is that I am always horny. I have been like this for a very long time. Thought I have been through my sexual peek but it hasnt slowed any. I could easily have sex or masturbate 4-5 times daily. It is starting to cause problems with my marriage. How can I slow this down. The biggest thing is I am not that bad when I am not with my wife but when I am around her I am very arroused even just staring into her eyes I get an erection. But if I am at work away from home I could go awhile without getting this way I have a problem please help [Frown]
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The simple solution is to just masturbate to relieve the sexual tension. As long as she does not object to you masturbating (if she does, get joint marital counseling!), and as long as you don't try to coerce or pester her into sex she doesn't want, then this should be okay.

btw, you're not engaging in self-destuctive compusive sexual activity, are you? that includes excessive itme looking at porn, seeking extra-marital sex (esp. with anonymous partners), etc. If you do any of that stuff, you should seek counseling for sexually compulsive behavior.

Do you exercise much? I find that vigorous exercise takes the edge off my libido (while improving performance for the times you do want to use it).

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HAPPILYMARRIED
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That has not worked in my case the more I masterbate the more I want to be touched by her and then I do ask for any thing sexual from her and thats the problem I dont want to ask because I know how much it bothers her. No I do not look for other partners or porn Thats the thing I am not arroused by other women it is my wife that I want all the time and I dont want to hurt her by asking thats why I wanted to know is there any drugs or prescriptions to slow my sex drive? I have told her in the past I wouldnt mind if she stood in front of me while I masterbated I just want to look at her, but she does not like that either she is not confident with her appearance. I have also considered doing something to hurt down there so I dont get arroused. I don't want to hurt her by begging for something she does not want to do. Is there anything else I can try?
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Oh and I do exercise quite often swimming walking, jogging also free-weights
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Gumdrop Girl
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Well, there's no magic prescription to kill your libido. There are drugs that can interfere with sexual function (namely SSRIs), but those aren't Rx'd to people simply to diminish their libidoes.

You said your wife has body issues. Looks like it's time you two spent a little time in join counseling. you should get a third party to arbitrate this one so you can both talk through issues that affecting your sexual compatibility.

please read: Sexual Negotiations for the Long Haul

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