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ok this guy lets say jason used to live on my street and i grew up with him for as long as i can remember, and i'm attracted to him and i know he is me. He and his family moved 2 years ago. but before i get to that one time some of us kids were out playing and it was just past sunset and he grabs my butt hard! i was shocked but kinda glad u know! And the day they moved he asked me out! so it was a long distance relationship and we only got to see each other once the whole time and then he broke up with me. ( i've seen him since then) But he acts like he's trying to be 'cool' in front of his boys. But neways this summer his sister asked me to go to vacation bible school with them and i did and they came and picked me up. They're very religious at least the parents are but the kids arent but they cant let it show u know what i mean? So he mostly jokingly makes fun of me with his boys. I asked him if he wanted to go back out with me and he said he didnt know, but i like asked like almost every nite,cause i wanted him to tell me himself in person but then on the last nite he said no! i was so confused and hurt! but heres the odd thing on the way home from V.B.S when its dark out and on the ride home he sits in the backseat and i sit in the first set of seats i guess u could say and then he sits in the back seat(its a van)and he'll playfully poke my butt or tickle me without being too noticable! then like three days before he gave my boob a little squeeze and it shocked me, so i wrote him a note explaining how i feel about that cause since we werent in a relationship then that was a little much. He backed off after that which i was afraid of! And i really miss him and i was wondering if i should have his sister ask how he feels about me or ask him out. cause whenever his sister gets the van she can take us to the mall or whatever u know! But can u help me figure out what in the world's going on in his head?!? PLEASE!
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We can't tell you what is going on in his head. We aren't phychics, unfortunately.
Personally? Ditch him. He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, and quite honestly, if he's only willing to be respectful to you (and hardly that, if he's touching you in a way that is clearly not comfortable) when his buddies aren't around, than he's being a huge jerk as it is.
I'm not sure what you were expecting by writing him the note. He SHOULD have backed off, not continued. You explained to him that you didn't like the fact that he was touching you this way and you weren't together. That isn't an invitation to continue.
I know it can be hard to make a decision, but come on, do you want to be with someone who can't make up his mind? He said no already, why bother trying to ask him out again, for the third or fourth time? And even if he does say yes, are you going to feel good that you got him on the third try? I don't think so.
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